How To Free Yourself From Chronic Unhappiness

 Two weeks ago, I came across an information product that explains how  one can overcome  chronic unhappiness on one of  the popular shopping sites, Amazon.com . After reading the book, I realised that this  information product  has all the information ones need to overcome depression .  The title of the book is The mindful Way Through Depression. It was written by Mark Williams. The most interesting thing about this book is that four unique expects were given the opportunity to explain why our usual attempts to think our  way out of a bad mood lead us deeper into the downward spiral.

The following are the testimonies of people about  the book:

New mindful techniques to get and stay depression free

Uses eastern and western techniques to increase mindfulness, relieve depression and keep yourself depression free for life. A slow but wonderful and very helpful read.

What could be better?

Very short review. It is ridiculously simple to do mindful medication and it works. Th book itself is graciously and kindly written in a way that reflects what the book.

Powerful, Profound and Applicable to everyone

I found this to be very powerful book- for individuals experiencing depression AND for individuals who are not depressed but want to enjoy more of their moment in life.

The mindful way through depression

Excellent Book. I have read some books of how to deal with anxiety or depression and this book is the only one that has helped me.

Wonderful guide to overcoming depression

I am about 80% through this book and I am glad I bought it. I have suffered from depression for  many years and bee to theraphy on different  occassions

Care about depression

An easy way to find out someone is depressed, ask someone how they are and  really care, listen to them and to what they are not saying

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Depression And Loneliness

There is a story of a 92 year old woman from Florida, U.S.A who was arrested after she fired a handgun into her neighbour’s house when he refused to give her a kiss. Helen Staudinger told Marion County sheriff’s deputies that she walk next door to speak with her neighbour, 53 year old Dwight Bettner, who she said had ask her to leave until he had given her a kiss.

After a brief argument, she got a 380 semi-automatic handgun from her home and fired several shots into Mr Bettner’s home. One of the bullets flew into Mr Bettner’s bedroom, where he was hit by flying glass. The man told the police that Mrs Staudinger,  a widow, had expressed a fondness for him since he moved to the neighbourhood six months earlier.

I told her I am in a relationship, Mr Bettner said. She had this idea I am suppose to be her man. Mrs Stauginder was charged with aggravated assault and shooting into an occupied dwelling.

Oh what a world of loneliness .Is there a cure for lonliness? The truth is that there are seasons when everyone goes through a loneliness school. But the cure for loneliness is not a kiss or a gun. It is not even marriage because someday, everyone will be a widow or widower.

Someone said: if you are afraid of loneliness, do not marry. I believe that only God can fill the vaccum of lonliness, not any man or woman. Sometimes marriage is like a hot bath. Once you get used to it, it is not so hot. So, set your focus on the healer of the broken hearted.

Overcoming Depression With Medication

There are different types of depression medications (antidepressants) used to treat depression and conditions that have depression. These drugs improve symptoms of depression by increasing the availability of certain brain chemicals called neurotransmitters. They can help lift your mood and ease the sadness and hopelessness you feel.

All antidepressants are prescription drugs. This means that you cannot buy them over the counter.

Taking a decision on the type of depression anxiety medication to take would depend largely on the balance between its pros and cons. What this means is that you have to study the possible effects (both positive and negative) of each drug before making the decision to take it.

If you are deciding on prescription medications, your doctor will advise before making any decisions.

Major Types of Antidepressants are listed below:

1.Noradrenergic and Specific Serotonergic Antidepressants (NASSAs)

2.Serotonin- Inhibitors (SNRIs)Norepinephrine Reuptake

3.kSelective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs)

4.Norepinephrine (Noradrenaline) Reuptake Inhibitors (NRIs)

5.Tricyclic Antidepressants (TCAs)

These drugs are effective but they are accompanied by many side effects as well.

Some of the side effects of this drugs are:

• Insomnia

• Nausea or vomiting

• Headaches

• Dizziness

• Weigth loss or gain.

How To Overcome Clinical Depression

Clinical depression is one of the types of depression that affect a lot of people, but the good news about clinical depression is that it is not difficult to overcome, psychiatrists  see clinical depression  as the type of depression that dwells on the gloomy end of the spectrum. They refer to it as “unipolar depression”.

 Symptoms Of Clinical Depression

1) Loss of interest in all your normal activities.

2) Sleeping much more or much less than normal.

3) A dramatic change in your appetite, leading to noticeable weight gain or weight loss.

4) Feelings of worthlessness, guilt, or hopelessness that things won’t improve.

5) Abnormal tiredness throughout the day.

6) Having trouble concentrating or thinking.

7) Thinking about death or suicide more than usual etc.

What to do to overcome clinical depression:

·         Consult your doctor: Clinical depression is a serious medical condition that is very  complicated to treat. You need the help of a therapist who will provide psychological treatments.

·         Join an online forum support group offering advice on depression treatment.

·         If you are christian talk to your pastor about it.

Where to get help:

If you don’t know where to go for help, Listed below are the types of people or places that will provide diagnostic and treatment services:

·         Family doctors.

·         Mental health specialist such as psychiatrists, psychologists and mental health councellors.

·         Health maintenance organisations.

·         Community mental health centers.

·         Hospital psychiatry departments and outpatient clinics.

·         University or medical school-affiliated programs.

·         State hospital out-patient clinics.

Learn To Laugh

One of the first signs of mental breakdown is inability to laugh. It is not positions that makes you happy; it is your disposition, your nature, your make up, character and your propensity. Laughter reduces health sapping tension and relaxes the tissues as well as exercises the most vital organs of human system.


Those that frowns grow wrinkles prematurely but when you smile, it increases your face value. I watched a documentary on the television; a research was conducted in America which revealed that most comedians live up to 100 years. This is because of the lighter mood their profession demands, they make people laugh at all times. While laughter sends healing waves round the whole body, frowning, anger and malice dry man's system.

If you do not want to grow old untimely, call everyone you have issues with and settle once and for all. This will enable you live long. You must also be happy whatever you do per time. Like your job and be excited about your assignment. When your job pleases you , you become tireless and want to do it more and more , if your job does not excite you, you easily get tired. If you keep managing such job, it might slow you down in destiny and shorten your life span.

Cherish what you have. Those  who nthink only of what others have which they do not always look unhappy. Learn to appreciate God no matter your  condition. If you are grateful for what God has done for you, He will be compeled to do more.

Doing The Right Thing The Wrong Way Will Still Lead To Problems.

Problems of life are everywhere, but  nobody loves to have them because they are like the traffic hold up on the highway, they delay ones arrival at destiny. Many do not love or pray for problems, yet they sticks to people’s lives like postage stamp does to the envelopes. Problems are destiny destroyers and progress aborters. Some people’s lives have been enjoyable and fullfiling before problems set in. Many businesses were thriving but suddenly problems cropped up and the story changed. Same thing for many marriages. They were in their honeymoon before problem like an eclipse covered up their moonlight.

There are two sources of problems: Problems from within and also from without. Many people are the architects of their own misfortune, they caused them. They opened their eyes and walked into open traps. They took wrong decisions based on wrong information or assumption and that was how problems came. On the other   hand, there  are externally contrived problems people do create for others. In order to avoid or minimize problems in life, make sure you do only what is right. There are two sides to every issue on earth: right and wrong.

You may be on the right track but if you choose a wrong way to accomplish your purpose, you will still have problems. Do not always love to cut corners or disobey the laws. When you know a thing is wrong , no matter how tempted you are, avoid it, for wrong doings attract problems

Stop Worrying

Do not worry for worry is a killer. Worry is like the berbers chair, it turns you round and round without  taking you an inch forward. When you worry you can’t pray, when you worry you cannot sleep and when you worry, you cannot think. Worry leads to sleeplessness, which leads to hypertention and hypertention leads to all kind  of system breakdown disorders. Worry has and is still sending people to their untimely grave. Stop it before it stops you. If you worry from now till eternity, it will make no difference, so avoid worrying, only think of how to make things better.

Worry cannot pay your debt, settle your bill, release your cheque, heal you, complete your project, help pass your examination or secure you a job. Worry cannot give you a baby or undo what has been done. So, why are you worrying on these things? Worry is the money you pay for goods not supplied. It is death warrants for an untimely grave, avoid it.

Worry is not necessary for fear  is not real. What you are afraid of will never happen and fear is false expectation appearing real. Nobody fears what has already happened, it is the unknown that creates fear and the unknown is the unreal. Fear is an exaggeration of problem. 

Things are not always how people describe them to be. People exaggerate a lot because that is the only way to make you believe in what they say. There are many situations you thought will kill you or that you could not survive in the past but you survived them. That is why you are still alive.

You Can Cure Depression Naturally

Depresssion can be cured naturally. It is just unfortunate that many people do not know that depression can be cured naturally. There are  natural a lot of natual cures for depression, but I am going to talk about three which I think will be of benefit to.

They are  Exercise, B vitamins, Supplement.

  1)Exercise not only can help you become physically fit, it is also an effective way to alleviate depression. In this regard, exercise acts as a mood enhancer. For those who are taking depression medications, exercise can enhance their effects; exercise can help the body absorb medications better. In addition, exercise encourages the production of endorphins, the "happy mood" chemical. If you truly enjoy the exercises you are doing, it can further boost your emotional well being.

Walking is a good example of a natural cure that can give immediate relief. Some researchers have conducted studies and found that walking 30 minutes a day can give immediate relief from depressive symptoms.

2) B vitamin: According to research, adults who have depression have folic acid deficiency. This low level of folic acid in the body can actually cause a person to experience bouts of depression. Not only that, low folic acid levels can also cause a person's body to respond slower to depression medications. Studies have also found a correlation between our moods and folic levels: if our folic levels are high, our moods tend to improve along with it.

3)Supplement:   Supplements like fish oils are effective anti-depressants. Fish oils have an omega-3 fatty acid straight that  has been found to suppress feelings of depression. To keep the brain healthy, it needs DHA fatty acids, and omega-3 fatty acids can help the brain replenish the brain's supply of DHA fatty acids.

Conclusively, I advise you that take time to talk to friends and mingle with people whom you know will help you and support you with your situation. It will also help if you get yourself busy with things that will take your mind set away from all the troubles you are having! Do a hobby with your friends or close relatives, there are tons to choose from!

You can overcome depression. Whether you opt to use medications or use natural cures for depression, it's important that you remain focused and committed to helping yourself get over it.

Conquer That Stress : Smile Daily.

Please frown your face and turn the sides of your mouth down. Imagine it’s your birthday and your friends or spouse. Frown more! Hold It ! How do you feel ? Okay now, Smile. Let the corners of your lips slide heaven wards  ( upwards) . Imagine the birthday card has just arrived. The surprise party is for you. Bigger smile! Hold it ! How do you feel? Better ! Here is why: A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.

Researchers have shown that when a person smiles, there is a reduction in cortisol, a chemical that provokes stress in the body and an increase in mind-elevating endorphins ( hormones) on the social level, an honest smile cancels hostility and draws people near you. It takes more muscles to frown than smile in the human body. Laughter has a protective effect  on the immune system by increasing anti-body producing cell and

activating virus fighting cells.

The act of smiling engages at  least three major muscle groups, increasing blood to the face and thus helping to create a glossy glow. Yet despite all these benefits, a smile is free. I heard recently that the great philosopher, Akin vats  used to make himself to laugh every morning for 10 minutes as  soon as he got up. I tried my own version for about 5 minutes of that exercise.

Laughter is the  biological reaction of  humans to moment or occasions of humour. Every laugh you make cuts short the miles and hours and days of drudgery/DEPRESSION. No matter what you are going through rejoice or pretend to rejoice if need be , but don’t die through tears, self-pity, depression, worry or anxiety. A man is not finished if he can still laugh. 

Edgar Watson Howe wrote: If you don’t learn to laugh at trouble, you won’t have anything to laugh at when you are old. “Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine” No wonder  Micheal Pritchad wrote: He who laugh last, Laugh longest.

Indeed a day without laughter is a day wasted, nothing shows a man characters more than what he laughs at. Refuse to pity yourself, forgive yourself, reject depression because your best days are still ahead.

Smoking Can Worsen Depression-10 Reasons Why You Should Quit Smoking.

Smoking can lead to depression

Smoking is one of the vices that is very difficult to give up, but the following 10 reasons to quit smoking can definitely help you to give it up:

Avoid heart attack and strokes - I'm sure you would like to lead a long and healthy life. This is possible only if you stop smoking. Smoking can increase the risk of suffering a heart attack, as well as a stroke. Most people find this to be one of the most important 10 reasons to quit smoking.

Quit to Reduce stress - as it is, the pace of life today is very stressful. When you smoke you become even more stressed. So, by quitting smoking you can feel more relaxed and bring the stress in your life under your control and not let smoking control you.

You Stink! - Smokers typically don't smell very good. By quitting smoking, your clothes will smell better, your mouth will taste better, and your nose will work better. People will be more attracted to you when you don't smell like you have been smoking. Most people who don't smoke do not like being around those who do because of the smell.

Increase your sexual power - if you want to enjoy a healthy sex life, you need to quit smoking, as smokers are known to suffer from erectile dysfunction more often than non-smokers. You will not need to face any tension the next time you are involved sexually with your partner if you give up smoking.

Avoid getting cancer - smokers always face a higher risk of getting cancer of the nose, lung, mouth and the throat.

Preserve your teeth - if you are one of those people who take pride in their appearance, then you should know that smoking causes harm to your teeth and makes them look yellow.

Keep away headaches - smoking is known to cause headaches in many people. So, avoiding smoking will help you to experience fewer headaches.

Enhance your sense of smell and taste - smoking is known to diminish your sense of smell and taste. You can now enjoy both of these senses to the fullest by quitting smoking. Food will smell and taste better than ever before. You will feel like eating more food once you quit smoking, as you can appreciate it in the best possible way.

Men and Depression - How to Help a Depressed Man and Keep Your Relationship Strong

Men do get depressed but they tend to hide it well. Men tend to deal with depression differently than women and may show different signs that they are depressed. Depression is often a hidden problem with men, since many men tend to suffer in silence, rather than talking about their feelingsAnd that can lead to relationship problems.

Historically, depression has been thought of as mostly a problem for women, but now we know that depression is a problem for men, too. Depression in men may go undetected. In fact, men may not realize they are depressed, although they may recognize they are feeling stressed. And their health care providers often miss the telltale signs.

Depression is a normal part of life. Yet, if it goes unresolved, it can have a disastrous affect on personal functioning, relationships and careers. Thus, depression is a condition that must be recognized and treated for men to function on their highest level.

What Are The Signs?
1. Men who are depressed may suddenly become irritable and quick to anger. Non-aggressive men may become more aggressive and hostile.

2. Some may abuse alcohol or drugs, or turn to food for comfort, although some may eat less. It really depends on the person and his circumstances.

3. Some men may over-exercise, while others may stop.

4. One man may throw himself into a favorite hobby whereas a workaholic may become more dependent upon work ...while ignoring his relationships.

5. Men may show typical signs of depression, too, such as, feelings of fatigue and burn-out, sleep disturbances and decreased libido. Thought patterns may change; men may think more negatively and perceive the world in darker, more threatening ways. This can be a subtle change. Depressed men may start feeling anxious and worried, and respond poorly to daily problems or stress at work or home, either over-reacting or under-reacting.

Strategies for Helping A Depressed Man:

First, if you notice that a man you care about is depressed, don't beat him over the head with your observations; be careful how you approach the subject, or you may make your relationship problems worse. You might try sharing your concern with him, mentioning that you have noticed one or two of his symptoms. Go gently ...and see if you can get him to open up about how he's feeling. Express your concern. Avoid being critical. Don't blame. Just listen and tell him how concerned you are.

Secondly, if you know someone the depressed man knows and respects, such as his father, pastor or best friend, suggest that he talk to that person. Or, you may enlist the help of a family member or close friend who has his ear.

Thirdly, try to get him to see his doctor (or yours), and encourage him to talk to his doctor about his depressed feelings (maybe he needs to go for other reasons, too). The physician can make a referral for counseling or prescribe helpful anti-depressant medication, if needed.

Fourthly, sometimes we men need a little prodding (and pampering). Be persistent and don't give up, as long as you proceed in a non-threatening manner. Remember, you want the man to view your efforts to help him as a sign of your deep-felt concern, rather than an attempt to nag or harass him. He won't end up feeling pressured by you if you always state your concern in non-demanding ways.

The way you say something is as important as what you say. Some sensitive men are hard to approach, but they tend to respond favorably when you talk to them in a direct, caring and gentle manner. Avoid allowing your body language or tone of voice to express anger or contempt.
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Counseling
If you are in an intimate relationship with a depressed partner, it is often best to seek counseling. It is much easier and more effective to sit down with a trained relationship professional to discuss your relationship problems.  Counseling is one of the best ways to face and deal with depression. It can be just as effective as medication, if not more so. The combination of the two can be even more effective. Sometimes depression can become quite serious and lead to other mental health issues. It is best to take it seriously.