She Married Herself Without A Husband

A popular Taiwanese psychiatrist had a splendid wedding for herself early this year without a husband. Chen chen, 45, who has published a number of books, said that she spent two  month  preparing for her wedding in full traditional Taiwanese style. It included sending wedding invitation to friends and relatives for her wedding reception, lighting firecrackers and giving out her wedding cake. Sounds funny, but that’s  the uncover secret of achievers!They always remember that: THE GREATEST EXPERIENCE IS TO MEET YOURSELF AND FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR SELF! Chen Chen is not the only woman to have fallen in love with, and married herself. It’s a common practice in Taiwan.

In November last year, Taipei office worker held her own wedding after thinking that it was time to get married although she had not found “Mr Right.” The emphasis here is not on the “marriage ceremony” of these women, but on their mindset of BELEIVING IN THEMSELVES.

No matter what is happening to or around you, always remember that you are the expressed image of God and that you are not inferior to anybody. Don’t allow circumstances or daily events  to re-define who you are.

On your next birthday, buy yourself a card addressed: “FROM ME TO ME” treat yourself to a great dinner, go shopping and buy a good birthday gift for yourself, then sing a happy birthday song to yourself. 

The reason is simple: You Must Be Your Number One fan In This Wicked World! Agape Love (Unconditional Love) Is Not For You To Love The World Alone! It Must Start With You Loving Yourself Just As You Are (Without Condition).

The greatest experience is to meet yourself and fall in love with yourself daily, over and over again. Will you plan your solo-wedding soon? Invite me! Start today.

Learn To Laugh

One of the first signs of mental breakdown is inability to laugh. It is not positions that makes you happy; it is your disposition, your nature, your make up, character and your propensity. Laughter reduces health sapping tension and relaxes the tissues as well as exercises the most vital organs of human system.


Those that frowns grow wrinkles prematurely but when you smile, it increases your face value. I watched a documentary on the television; a research was conducted in America which revealed that most comedians live up to 100 years. This is because of the lighter mood their profession demands, they make people laugh at all times. While laughter sends healing waves round the whole body, frowning, anger and malice dry man's system.

If you do not want to grow old untimely, call everyone you have issues with and settle once and for all. This will enable you live long. You must also be happy whatever you do per time. Like your job and be excited about your assignment. When your job pleases you , you become tireless and want to do it more and more , if your job does not excite you, you easily get tired. If you keep managing such job, it might slow you down in destiny and shorten your life span.

Cherish what you have. Those  who nthink only of what others have which they do not always look unhappy. Learn to appreciate God no matter your  condition. If you are grateful for what God has done for you, He will be compeled to do more.

Setbacks Are Normal Occurrences In Life’s Pursuits.

Setbacks are normal occurrences in life’s pursuits. They shouldn’t grind you to a halt. Zane Grey wrote, ‘These are the tests of greatness to bear up under loss, to fight the bitterness of defeat and the weakness of grief, to be a victor over anger, to smile when tears are close, to  resist disease and evil men and base instints, to hate hate and to love love, to go on when it would seem good to die, to seek ever the glory and the dream, to look up with unquenchable faith to something even more about to be. These things any can do to be great’.

One of the greatest human qualities is that of becoming unstoppable! How do you become unstoppable? Simply by refusing to quit, no matter what happens. The ideas is to resolve to turn every stumbling block into a stepping stone. Abraham Lincoln said, ‘Success is going from failure to failure, without losing your enthusiasm.’

Lincoln’s life exemplifies this great principle. He went from failure to failure, yet he refused to lose his enthusiasism until he finally won. He failed in business in 1831; lost a legislative election in 1832; lost his wife in 1835; suffered a nervous breakdown in 1836; and was defeated in two other elections in 1838 and 1840. In 1843 and 1848, Lincoln failed to win a slot in congress. He lost another election into the senate in 1850. In 1856, he lost the election that would made him the vice president of the United States.

Inspite of all these, Abraham Lincoln still was undaunted and unperturbed. He kept up his enthusiasism and kept on fighting. He contested eletion for presidency of the United States in 1860 and won. He became one of the best Presidents  America ever had. Marva Collins said, Determination and perseverance move the world; thinking that someone else will do it for you is a sure way to fail

To succeed in life, once you have started from the scratch, you must keep on scratching, no matter what. Don’t ever give up or stop.

Doing The Right Thing The Wrong Way Will Still Lead To Problems.

Problems of life are everywhere, but  nobody loves to have them because they are like the traffic hold up on the highway, they delay ones arrival at destiny. Many do not love or pray for problems, yet they sticks to people’s lives like postage stamp does to the envelopes. Problems are destiny destroyers and progress aborters. Some people’s lives have been enjoyable and fullfiling before problems set in. Many businesses were thriving but suddenly problems cropped up and the story changed. Same thing for many marriages. They were in their honeymoon before problem like an eclipse covered up their moonlight.

There are two sources of problems: Problems from within and also from without. Many people are the architects of their own misfortune, they caused them. They opened their eyes and walked into open traps. They took wrong decisions based on wrong information or assumption and that was how problems came. On the other   hand, there  are externally contrived problems people do create for others. In order to avoid or minimize problems in life, make sure you do only what is right. There are two sides to every issue on earth: right and wrong.

You may be on the right track but if you choose a wrong way to accomplish your purpose, you will still have problems. Do not always love to cut corners or disobey the laws. When you know a thing is wrong , no matter how tempted you are, avoid it, for wrong doings attract problems

Know Who You Are And Find Where You Fit.

I may not Fit Into Your Place but I have a place I fit into. God created everyone for a purpose. If you can find your place, you will shine as star. No one can take away what God made for you. If you are where you are not fulfilled, that means you are yet to get to where you belong.

There is no way to outrun a man or a woman who is in his/her track and running his/her own race. The reason you see so many jealousy and envy is because people generally do not know where they fit in. Envy especially is admiration turned upside down. The man or woman who envies you acknowledges something in you that he/she desires but cannot pay the price to acquire.

Most of the struggles and ridicules of life are avoidable if we understand the simple law of life. Know who you are, where you belong, and what you are cut out for. Know your limitations and also know your capabilities. Once you know who you are, where you fit in will be easy to locate.

Nothing plagues people like lack of identity. Do not allow people to call you who you are not. If you are a light weight and they call you heavy weight and you agree, when you meet heavy weight boxer, you may become a tragedy. So do not pretend to be what you are not.If you are not happy with yourself or fulfilled as you are, then , do something about it.The problem might probably be that you are not where you are created to be and certainly not doing what you are cut out to do.

Turn inwards, discover yourself for there is a you that is in you. You must discover the you in you. What God gave you to trade with are in you. Until you discover them, struggles and sufferings will continue.

After turning inward to discover and develop your potentials or endowments, find a platform for performance. There are those sent to enjoy what God gave you. Find out that environment and those people. Your thriving is located there.

Challenge Your Situation

There is no situation that cannot change if you will work hard and be patient. A situation not challenged will harden up and become a hill, a hill not removed will become a mountain and a mountain not addressed will become impossible. Do not leave situations till they get out of hand before you start running around for solution. That is what most people do, but know that problems are better solved in their embryo stage. If you allow them to harden. They become more difficult to get rid off.

The more you allow a matter to drag for too long, the more you give your opponents time to stiffen their positions. Procrastination they say is an enemy of progress. For instance, many patients in the hospital would not have gotten to their pitiable stage if they had consulted their doctors on time. Many marriages would not have collapsed if a respected counsellor was contacted on time. So, challenge your situation and it will change.

Take a decision concerning your situation. You will have to be decisive in life to create a chance for yourself. No one will give you a chance, it is your decision that will create the chance you desire. Do not shy away from taking firm decisions even if they are hard ones.

Make sure you apply correct approach to your situation and it will bring a positive result just as the correct tools will get a job done with ease.
That situation before you is waiting for a solution, so calm down and look at it very well,solution will emerge. No situation will standstill in the face of serious and continuos efforts.

Why Suicide ?

Life means different things to different people, when you know the true meaning of life, no problem or challenges can make you  commit suicide. I feel unhappy when I hear that somebody committed suicide simply because of life problems or challenges. Many of us have forgotten that life is a battle and winning the battle of life requires determination, endurance and perseverance. Alberto Salazer  said “An athlete who tells you the training is always easy and always fun simply hasn’t been there. Goals can be elusive which makes the difficult journey all the more rewarding. Great men do not attain all their goals but they do not quit.

 I was reading an article recently about a boss at a troubled U.S Mortage Giant Firm, Freddie Mac who committed suicide. David Kellerman , 41 was found hanged in the cellar  ( underground room) of his home. He was the acting Chief financial officer of the firm, which was blamed largely for taking risks said to have contributed largely to the global financial crisis. His wife called the police saying he has killed himself at their home in Vienna, Virgina.

Last month, a 14 years old boy killed himself  in his father house in my country. Nobody  knows why he had to take his life. His parent are still mourning his death, what could make a 14 years old boy kill himself? I think the boy is in the best position to answer the question. Herman Hesse wrote : It is nobler and finer to be conquered by life than fall by one’s own hand. In the battle front of life, refuse to cast thyself down. There is no problem that does not have a solution. Don’t give up! Once there is life there is hope. Shalom.

Tips On How To Be Happy In Life

Life treats or deals with different persons in diverse ways. Some are rich and some poor; some are born with silver spoon in their mouths and others have humble start. Many make way while the sun shines, while others earn their bread with the sweat of their brow. Some make wealth by foul ways and others have limited stores, for honest earnings are always small. While some are rolling in wealth, many can not afford two square meals a day. The favored and the foul pass their days in prosperity but the hard workers and the handicapped live in adversity.

Inspite of the problems we face in life we can still be happy. some of us may believe that being unhappy in life is something that is destined for them. However, we can be truly happy if we believe we can.Here are some things that you may be ignoring but can make you happy:

- Know what you want in life and what you love doing. Your interests and passion in life are among the things that can give you happiness and fulfillment and thus, for as long as you give time to do what you want and enjoy your passion, you can be happy in life.

-Take care of your health. It is often hard to be happy if your physical self is not well. Loose extra weight if you are overweight or obese, have a healthy diet, cut down on bad eating habits and do exercise. Of course, poor nutrition can be a factor to your bad mood. Keep in mind that the healthier you are, the easier you can learn how to be happy in life.

- Go with positive people. They most likely are happy ones. Get rid of negatives in life and avoid negative people as much as you can. Being negative can influence you and may lead you to being unhappy. If you can't get away with dealing with negative people especially if it happens in the workplace, then you can choose how to react to them and stay away from being angry or irritated.

-Conclusively,Love yourself and draw near unto God,if you cannot love yourself it is difficult to love others.

Depression, You Can Overcome It.

Depression is the simplest mental illness to stop, to pause, to relieve, yet day after day, in hospitals all over the country, doctors still attempt to cure depression without making patients aware of the very relief that is available to them for free.Some cases of severe, deep-seated depression might need medication and long-term therapy, but some mild depression, ordinary sadness can be paused by having the person take action. Imagine if every depressed person knew and learned and remembered that a person cannot remain depressed if they are continuously taking action, then maybe thousands or millions of patients would begin taking action in their own lives. Though, there are times when you are simply depressed and you try action and yet you stay depressed even while being active. Most people "quit' there and go back to inaction. Yet, if you just keep at the action, keep being active, even if you still feel depressed while being active, your activity will soon win out over the depression. The key is to be determined and continue to be active. Think about it. The most severely depressed individuals sit still or remain in bed all day and all night. If they could bring themselves to move, to take some steps, to get out of bed, to go for a walk, and if they could convince themselves to do this every day or a few times a day, eventually their action would win out over their inaction.

If you find yourself being mildly depressed, the very best medicine for you at that exact moment would be to take action. Taking some good, positive actions in your life will help you get back to yourself, as you were before you were depressed. So, how does one treat himself to relieve his own depression when they are living alone or when they have no one counseling them?

If you are mildly depressed, I suggest that you take action. Take some ordinary actions such as these:
• Go to the library and find the self-help section. Find books by Wayne W. Dyer, Og Mandino. Look through the shelves in that section and find every book that is applicable to you and your life. Read the books right there at the library. Find the book called, The Greatest Miracle in the World by Og Mandino. Look at the book called, The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz, and remember to locate that book called, The New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.
• Go to the bookstore, the one that has the headphones. Hang out in the music section and listen to all kinds of music. If you can afford to buy some music, then do so.
• Call some friends or relatives and arrange a visit. Get outdoors.
• See nature. Visit a park.
• Check your local newspapers and find out where the festivals are and attend some.
Feeling suicidal? Sometimes when you are depressed, you might have suicidal thoughts and feelings also. It makes sense. The pain of depression is so awful that some just want to be relieved of the pain and want that so bad that they begin thinking and feeling suicidal. Think different. Yes, I said think different. Put different thoughts in your head. Know and remind yourself that it is not life that you truly want to leave but it is the pain that you want to leave. So keep that in mind. If you are feeling suicidal, the best thing to do is to call a suicide hotline in your country. If you don’t have anybody to call or talk to, You can email me for help.

Don’t Allow Depression To Hinder Your Greatness In Life.

Depression is a killer of dreams and visions. We must not allow it to hinder us from becoming great in life.The world is a mixed bag of sorts and odds, apples and oranges.You choose which and what you become.
There was a school classroom which was heated by an old-fashioned, pot-bellied coal stove. A little boy had the job of coming to school early each day to start the fire and warm the classroom before his teacher and his classmates arrived.

One morning they arrived to find the classroom engulfed in flames.They dragged the unconscious 8 years old boy out of the flaming building. He had major burns over the lower half of his body and somehow, to the amazement of the physician who predicted his death,he survived. After many weeks the doctor told the mother that it would almost be better if he had died,since he was doomed to be a lifetime cripple with no use at all of his lower limbs. Once more the brave boy made up his mind,he would not be a cripple,  he would walk.

Ultimately, through his persistence and resolute determination, he did developed the ability to stand up, then to walk by a stick, then to walk by himself and then to run. He began to walk to school. Later in college, he made the track team. Still later in Madison square Garden, this young man who was not expected to survive, who would surely never walk, who could never hope to run, this determined young man,  Dr Glenn Cunningham ran the world’s fastest mile. You must endure things to be great. Listen:everything happens for a reason and there is hope for brighter days even in the most desolate of circumstances, never give up! Endure! Hold on.

The Relationship Between Depression And Failure

Depression and Failure are like two Siamese twins.Failure has been one of the major reasons why a lot of people are depressed.Many people breakdown psychologically, mentally,spiritually and even physically when they experience certain disappointments of life.When hopes and expectations have been built up so high and the unexpected happens;  it destabilizes some people to the point that they totally breakdown.

You must know and prepare your mind that failure is only an event and not the final destination.The best way to cope with life irrespective of its very contradictions is to decide not to miss what you did not get. The feelings of oh! I missed it again, why me, what have I done wrong,when will I get out of this, who is after my life? will I ever make it again and will I ever become somebody of repute in life etc can kill or make someone psychologically imbalance.

Aviod the feelings of shame,hopelessness and regrets because you can still be happy in life despite what you did not get.Everything depends on your mindset.if you keep crying after what you have lost, there will be no time to prepare for what is next.you will do a lot of damage to yourself if you keep missing what you did not get. Whether it is in the area of relationship, marriage, business opportunities, traveling chance, positioning in the office or material things, once you have tried your best and it did not happen or it happened but could not be sustained, just forget it and move on with life.

Whenever you are in a fix,take a concrete decision because it is the decision you take when things happen to you that will determine its effect on you. You can get of out depression bytrivalizing your problems. No one is problem or challenge free. The only difference is that some carry theirs on the head while some put theirs under the feet.