Know Who You Are And Find Where You Fit.

I may not Fit Into Your Place but I have a place I fit into. God created everyone for a purpose. If you can find your place, you will shine as star. No one can take away what God made for you. If you are where you are not fulfilled, that means you are yet to get to where you belong.

There is no way to outrun a man or a woman who is in his/her track and running his/her own race. The reason you see so many jealousy and envy is because people generally do not know where they fit in. Envy especially is admiration turned upside down. The man or woman who envies you acknowledges something in you that he/she desires but cannot pay the price to acquire.

Most of the struggles and ridicules of life are avoidable if we understand the simple law of life. Know who you are, where you belong, and what you are cut out for. Know your limitations and also know your capabilities. Once you know who you are, where you fit in will be easy to locate.

Nothing plagues people like lack of identity. Do not allow people to call you who you are not. If you are a light weight and they call you heavy weight and you agree, when you meet heavy weight boxer, you may become a tragedy. So do not pretend to be what you are not.If you are not happy with yourself or fulfilled as you are, then , do something about it.The problem might probably be that you are not where you are created to be and certainly not doing what you are cut out to do.

Turn inwards, discover yourself for there is a you that is in you. You must discover the you in you. What God gave you to trade with are in you. Until you discover them, struggles and sufferings will continue.

After turning inward to discover and develop your potentials or endowments, find a platform for performance. There are those sent to enjoy what God gave you. Find out that environment and those people. Your thriving is located there.

Challenge Your Situation

There is no situation that cannot change if you will work hard and be patient. A situation not challenged will harden up and become a hill, a hill not removed will become a mountain and a mountain not addressed will become impossible. Do not leave situations till they get out of hand before you start running around for solution. That is what most people do, but know that problems are better solved in their embryo stage. If you allow them to harden. They become more difficult to get rid off.

The more you allow a matter to drag for too long, the more you give your opponents time to stiffen their positions. Procrastination they say is an enemy of progress. For instance, many patients in the hospital would not have gotten to their pitiable stage if they had consulted their doctors on time. Many marriages would not have collapsed if a respected counsellor was contacted on time. So, challenge your situation and it will change.

Take a decision concerning your situation. You will have to be decisive in life to create a chance for yourself. No one will give you a chance, it is your decision that will create the chance you desire. Do not shy away from taking firm decisions even if they are hard ones.

Make sure you apply correct approach to your situation and it will bring a positive result just as the correct tools will get a job done with ease.
That situation before you is waiting for a solution, so calm down and look at it very well,solution will emerge. No situation will standstill in the face of serious and continuos efforts.

Let Yesterday Go

Welcome to the month of December, the most celebrated of all the months of the year!So many of us look forward to December , either because of the Christmas celebration or because of the “no work’’season which is an opportunity to rest and unwind. One of the strongest yokes that hold people down in life is their past For instance, people find it difficult to forget their past mistakes,losses, disappointments,failures e.t.c. Yet no one can move forward looking backward.
If you are going to move fast, you must forget your past. The fact is , there is no one without yesterday, but if you do not let it go, it will affect your today and may destroy your tomorrow. Know that the tomorrow ahead of you is greater than the yesterday behind you.

As the year is wonderfully winding up. I am beginning to peep delightly into the year 2011. Unfortunately, those who are still romancing their past, the unreached goals, unmet needs, success, regrets e.t.c would not find an interesting things to do.

If you want to move forward in every aspect of your life in 2011; you must leave behind you hurts, resentment, unforgiveness, envy, unhealthy relationships even your success because there are greater things ahead.

Disappointments, mistakes and failures are all indications that you are part of human race. If you think what happened to you or that which you are currently passing through has not happened to anyone before, you have allowed yourself to be deceived. People have passed through worst things and came out of it. So, you too will come out and come up. It is after you decide to let yesterday go that moving into your future becomes a possibility. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year in advance.

The Global Economics Crisis And Depression

It is no more news that the Global Economics Crisis is affecting every nation of the world and this has resulted to a lot of people losing their jobs. So many people are out of work and are struggling to hold onto their homes.

There are those who are trying to figure out where the money for food is going to come from for the week. Many are faced with no medical insurance. Christians all over the world are already looking forward to another Christmas, which is just three weeks away.

In our hard economic times this year money is a major factor for depression and the holiday season only reminds us how bad things are and reminds us that we have to cut back or eliminate some from our lists.

Are you depressed because you are financially down ? Pls cheer up and don’t take a rash decision , all you need to do is to have different streams of income. You need to accept and embrace change without making excuses (i.e. too old, too busy, too broke, too late),

The solution is to accept that the world has changed and embrace Information Age .
Start an online business:

Here are some online businesses you can do online

Set up a blog: It is very easy to use a blog to build your presence online, blogging regularly about a specific and profitable niche area of expectise will help you to generate a lot of money from your blog, all you have to do is to monetize your blog, all the resources needed are available online. If you need help, I will help you create one for free.

Affiliate Marketing - Almost every single site out on the internet has some sort of an affiliateship, affiliate program, profit sharing program etc. An Affiliate program is a program you join as an affiliate from a website, affiliate marketing can be very appealing to many people starting out doing business online, because you don't need to own your own product and, in many cases, you don't even need a website. You simply market someone else's product using a specially coded link with your affiliate ID, and every time you make a sale using your affiliate link, you get paid a commission payment for the sale.

Create Your Own Online Community – The recent phenomenon of social networking is creating unprecedented new opportunities for people online. One of the most recent trends is to start your own online community, focusing on a specific area of interest.

Information Product - The focus here is specifically on creating digital information products that can be downloaded online. Examples of information products are e-books (electronic books) and information reports, audio books and podcasts, video training products, membership sites, software and web services, etc

Provide service online - If the thought of being an online entrepreneur running your own business seems too risky for you to consider at this stage, then why not continue working for others, but transfer your skills to the online arena? There are many opportunities for providing much needed services to other companies. One growing trend, for example, is the outsourcing of tasks like creating, managing and updating web content, providing search engine optimization and online marketing services, business training and consulting services, etc.

Freelancing- This sort of goes along with writing articles.If you know how to do something like write,how to do web design, web templates, web development whatever, you can do it as a freelancer. You can make actual money from this, check out freelance sites, do a search on Google for Freelance sites, freelance jobs or freelancers. This will take you to many different sites where you might be able to offer your services.

You Can Cure Depression Naturally

Depresssion can be cured naturally. It is just unfortunate that many people do not know that depression can be cured naturally. There are  natural a lot of natual cures for depression, but I am going to talk about three which I think will be of benefit to.

They are  Exercise, B vitamins, Supplement.

  1)Exercise not only can help you become physically fit, it is also an effective way to alleviate depression. In this regard, exercise acts as a mood enhancer. For those who are taking depression medications, exercise can enhance their effects; exercise can help the body absorb medications better. In addition, exercise encourages the production of endorphins, the "happy mood" chemical. If you truly enjoy the exercises you are doing, it can further boost your emotional well being.

Walking is a good example of a natural cure that can give immediate relief. Some researchers have conducted studies and found that walking 30 minutes a day can give immediate relief from depressive symptoms.

2) B vitamin: According to research, adults who have depression have folic acid deficiency. This low level of folic acid in the body can actually cause a person to experience bouts of depression. Not only that, low folic acid levels can also cause a person's body to respond slower to depression medications. Studies have also found a correlation between our moods and folic levels: if our folic levels are high, our moods tend to improve along with it.

3)Supplement:   Supplements like fish oils are effective anti-depressants. Fish oils have an omega-3 fatty acid straight that  has been found to suppress feelings of depression. To keep the brain healthy, it needs DHA fatty acids, and omega-3 fatty acids can help the brain replenish the brain's supply of DHA fatty acids.

Conclusively, I advise you that take time to talk to friends and mingle with people whom you know will help you and support you with your situation. It will also help if you get yourself busy with things that will take your mind set away from all the troubles you are having! Do a hobby with your friends or close relatives, there are tons to choose from!

You can overcome depression. Whether you opt to use medications or use natural cures for depression, it's important that you remain focused and committed to helping yourself get over it.

Can Antidepressant Drugs Cure Depression?

I've heard some depressed people say that antidepressants have made their unbearable life bearable and have helped them greatly. But if you are suffering from Clinical Depression, before you race off to your Doctor and get some, please consider the following. Antidepressants often come with side effects such as:

* Drowsiness and fatigue
* Constipation, nausea and diarrhea
* Weight gain
* Sexual dysfunction


If you are taking or thinking about taking antidepressants for treating your depression, then you need to pay attention. There are many things about the big pharmaceutical companies that you do not know about, but should. You should be doing your homework and not relying on your doctor to tell you if a medication is good or safe. In fact, many doctors are not as qualified to prescribe medications as they would like you to believe. This can not only cost you an extra expense, but can also jeopardize your overall health and well-being.

As you probably know, antidepressants don't cure the problem, they only mask the effects. While this may be helpful to some in the short term, the problem remains, to be faced at some stage in the future. It's better, faster and more healthy to look at the cause of your depression sooner rather than later.

Bearing in mind antidepressant drugs are implicated in causing murderous and suicidal thoughts and may be the cause behind the recent mass murders. The drugs can also increase your risk of strokes and serious brain injuries.

There are therapies out there which can help and if you have a close friend (or a group) who is prepared to go the distance with you, depression can be worked through and climbed out of. Please don't give up! Life sometimes seems stagnant, but over time things do change.

It is also important to know that there are many natural remedies to replace antidepressants, and that many of these are being snuffed out by the big pharmaceutical companies for a reason.

Conquer That Stress : Smile Daily.

Please frown your face and turn the sides of your mouth down. Imagine it’s your birthday and your friends or spouse. Frown more! Hold It ! How do you feel ? Okay now, Smile. Let the corners of your lips slide heaven wards  ( upwards) . Imagine the birthday card has just arrived. The surprise party is for you. Bigger smile! Hold it ! How do you feel? Better ! Here is why: A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.

Researchers have shown that when a person smiles, there is a reduction in cortisol, a chemical that provokes stress in the body and an increase in mind-elevating endorphins ( hormones) on the social level, an honest smile cancels hostility and draws people near you. It takes more muscles to frown than smile in the human body. Laughter has a protective effect  on the immune system by increasing anti-body producing cell and

activating virus fighting cells.

The act of smiling engages at  least three major muscle groups, increasing blood to the face and thus helping to create a glossy glow. Yet despite all these benefits, a smile is free. I heard recently that the great philosopher, Akin vats  used to make himself to laugh every morning for 10 minutes as  soon as he got up. I tried my own version for about 5 minutes of that exercise.

Laughter is the  biological reaction of  humans to moment or occasions of humour. Every laugh you make cuts short the miles and hours and days of drudgery/DEPRESSION. No matter what you are going through rejoice or pretend to rejoice if need be , but don’t die through tears, self-pity, depression, worry or anxiety. A man is not finished if he can still laugh. 

Edgar Watson Howe wrote: If you don’t learn to laugh at trouble, you won’t have anything to laugh at when you are old. “Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine” No wonder  Micheal Pritchad wrote: He who laugh last, Laugh longest.

Indeed a day without laughter is a day wasted, nothing shows a man characters more than what he laughs at. Refuse to pity yourself, forgive yourself, reject depression because your best days are still ahead.

Why Suicide ?

Life means different things to different people, when you know the true meaning of life, no problem or challenges can make you  commit suicide. I feel unhappy when I hear that somebody committed suicide simply because of life problems or challenges. Many of us have forgotten that life is a battle and winning the battle of life requires determination, endurance and perseverance. Alberto Salazer  said “An athlete who tells you the training is always easy and always fun simply hasn’t been there. Goals can be elusive which makes the difficult journey all the more rewarding. Great men do not attain all their goals but they do not quit.

 I was reading an article recently about a boss at a troubled U.S Mortage Giant Firm, Freddie Mac who committed suicide. David Kellerman , 41 was found hanged in the cellar  ( underground room) of his home. He was the acting Chief financial officer of the firm, which was blamed largely for taking risks said to have contributed largely to the global financial crisis. His wife called the police saying he has killed himself at their home in Vienna, Virgina.

Last month, a 14 years old boy killed himself  in his father house in my country. Nobody  knows why he had to take his life. His parent are still mourning his death, what could make a 14 years old boy kill himself? I think the boy is in the best position to answer the question. Herman Hesse wrote : It is nobler and finer to be conquered by life than fall by one’s own hand. In the battle front of life, refuse to cast thyself down. There is no problem that does not have a solution. Don’t give up! Once there is life there is hope. Shalom.

I Have Diabetes- How Do I know If I Suffer From Depression?

When you have diabetes, life can seem like a bowl of rotten bananas! But, just because you live with diabetes, doesn't mean you have to live with depression! Depression is shown to be a risk factor for type 2 diabetes because it's one of the most common and dangerous complications.

Diabetics are at far greater risk for acquiring depression than non-diabetics because diabetics have more stress than non-diabetics. Controlling diabetes requires a large number of physical and mental adaptations
You should contact your physician immediately if you have diabetes and have any of the signs of depression including:
• prolonged feelings of sadness
• anxious feelings without cause
• helpless or hopeless feeling
• inability to concentrate
• difficulty with memory
• excessive tiredness or fatigue
• decreased or increased appetite
• disinterest in things previously interested in
• inability to sleep or excessive sleeping
• thoughts of suicide
• preoccupation of death


Here are five things that can be done to overcome depression from diabetes

1)Depression is often associated with helplessness and hopelessness. What you need to do to overcome this is to continually be informed about diabetes.Reading about diabetes and its treatments is a step toward hope and of doing something about it. So an ongoing education should always be pursued, through books, magazines, websites, support groups and so on.

2)It's important to have a good doctor and diabetes care team. With their counsel, you can establish the right diet, medication, exercise and so on.

3)Before you can overcome depression from diabetes you need to systematize, categorize and prioritize your care. Goal-setting and time management skills can help you to bring everything together and make it work. When you know what to do and when to do it and are confident in your system, it brings a great lift and sense of relief

4)Develop the right attitude. The right attitude is not, or at least should not be, dependent on your feelings and emotions. On the other hand, the right attitude is more than simple "positive thinking". It begins with who you are as a human being, your core beliefs and life-expectations. You need to develop convictions about who you are and what you want from life based on your beliefs and expectations, not based on your feelings and emotions.


5)Join diabetes support groups. No person with diabetes should think or feel that they are all alone in their battle with their disease. Their family and friends certainly should be supportive and encouraging, but even in those cases where there is no support from family or friends, there are diabetes support groups available to help and befriend. Look for them through your doctor's office, the local hospital, library, college or school,on the internet.

When You Lose What You Love

Last week, a friend mine was killed by arm robbers. He has three children. The news of his death was a surprise to me because he happened to be the nicest person I have ever met. I cried for two days asking God why he had to die like that. His death prompted me to write this article.
To me when you lose what you love, you go through 5 stages:

• Denial. No it can’t be happening .
• Anger. God why are you permitting this?
• Bargaining. Please make it go away
• Depression,Silence and Withdrawal
• Acceptance.

Wether it is the loss of a child, a marriage, a job, your health etc. when you turn to God, He will give you the grace to embrace it, grieve it, express it, release it and go on to become stronger.Sometimes we seek quick relief by releasing it before we have gone through these stages. That is because we fear the process.

We have been taught that any show of emotion is a show of weakness, so we stuff it. But we only stuff it into our emotional garbage can, then spend all our time and energy sitting on the lid, trying to keep the contents from spilling out.

You must be willing to forgive, but until you come to grips with the enmity of your loss, including any injustice of what was done to you, you are not ready to forgive.When you rush to forgive, you forgive only in part and you are release only in part.

Are you running from pain today? Are you trading it in prematurely for some other feeling? Draw near unto God and your grief will turn to joy and no one will take it away.

Women And Depression-How Postpatum Depression Can Be Prevented

Medical experts believe that some women develop depression during pregnancy and empirical evidence has shown that between 8 and 12 percent of women are unable to adjust to parenthood and become so depressed that they seek medical help.

For most women, the birth of their baby is one of the most strenuous but also happiest days in their lives. So it is very difficult to understand why almost three-quarters of all women feel down shortly after giving birth.

Postpartum depression is one of the types of depression facing women. Postpartum depression is thought to be related to biochemical changes in the brain.If a woman feels that she is becoming depressed, she should seek help. Some of the signs of depression are sadness,inability to see, poor appetite,poor concentration, a feeling of being unable to cope, fatique, irritability and anxiety.

Some doctors ask women the following questions to find out if the woman is likely to develop postpartum depression or become depressed :
•Have a family history or a personal history of a depressive episode.

•Lacked experience in parenting a child or an adolescent (for example having no siblings to care for)

•Had an unstable or abusive family during childhood and adolescence

•Lacked positive support from husband or partner during and after pregnancy.

•Have a personal or a family history of depression

•Have had depression diagnosed during the pregnancy

•Are cut off from a near relative or friend who could care for the baby from time to time.

•possibly had negative experiences in their contact with health professionals during the pregnancy ( for example lacking information and communication.

Women are more likely to develop postpartum depression if they are socially and emotionally isolated or have had recent streessful life events. A woman suffering from depression needs help from a sympathetic doctor who is prepared to listen to her and give support and encouragement.
In more severe cases, psychiatric consultation may be needed.

The Relationship Between Depression And Alcohol

It quite unfortunate that many people around the world do not know that there is a relationship between alcohol and depression.Part of the problem with alcohol, as it relates to depression, is that it is difficult for some to have just one drink. Another concern is that depressed people often times want to drink their troubles away only to find the next day that their troubles not only still exist but have taken a turn for the worse. Mostly men try to drink a lot in order to avoid depression but they do not know that alcohol makes worse and provokes symptoms of this nervous disease.

So what is the mechanism that makes alcohol so unpredictable

According to some experts, alcohol might biologically play a significant role on triggering depression. This is a conclusion they have arrived after empirical evidence suggests that alcohol affects the human brain's chemistry. Sometimes alcohol can have a direct effect on the brain's serotonin levels. Serotonin happens to be the neurotransmitter linked directly to depression.

Alcohol may have physical effects, which may deepen the depression. Alcohol inhibits the the part of the brain that controls the motor skills of the body. The same thing happens to the brain's abilities regarding coordination and balance.

Alcohol clouds the rational thinking. This can cause frustration as well as low mood since the person struggles to cope with these effects. People sometimes feel sleepy and ultimately pass out due to the depressive effects of the alcohol on their systems.

Depression experts also note that alcohol consumers who're depressed often decide to go for an 'alcoholic solution' when they consider this as a self-medicating option. These people actually look for the superficial pleasing feelings that come through intoxication. This is like pouring fuel to put out a fire.

Once these feelings pass out, alcohol may suppress the drinkers' mood. They start feeling tired, irritable as well as disoriented. This might feed into the almost unbreakable depression cycle, as the drinkers might also start feeling guilty of their uncurbed drinking motive.

Tips On How To Be Happy In Life

Life treats or deals with different persons in diverse ways. Some are rich and some poor; some are born with silver spoon in their mouths and others have humble start. Many make way while the sun shines, while others earn their bread with the sweat of their brow. Some make wealth by foul ways and others have limited stores, for honest earnings are always small. While some are rolling in wealth, many can not afford two square meals a day. The favored and the foul pass their days in prosperity but the hard workers and the handicapped live in adversity.

Inspite of the problems we face in life we can still be happy. some of us may believe that being unhappy in life is something that is destined for them. However, we can be truly happy if we believe we can.Here are some things that you may be ignoring but can make you happy:

- Know what you want in life and what you love doing. Your interests and passion in life are among the things that can give you happiness and fulfillment and thus, for as long as you give time to do what you want and enjoy your passion, you can be happy in life.

-Take care of your health. It is often hard to be happy if your physical self is not well. Loose extra weight if you are overweight or obese, have a healthy diet, cut down on bad eating habits and do exercise. Of course, poor nutrition can be a factor to your bad mood. Keep in mind that the healthier you are, the easier you can learn how to be happy in life.

- Go with positive people. They most likely are happy ones. Get rid of negatives in life and avoid negative people as much as you can. Being negative can influence you and may lead you to being unhappy. If you can't get away with dealing with negative people especially if it happens in the workplace, then you can choose how to react to them and stay away from being angry or irritated.

-Conclusively,Love yourself and draw near unto God,if you cannot love yourself it is difficult to love others.

Depression, You Can Overcome It.

Depression is the simplest mental illness to stop, to pause, to relieve, yet day after day, in hospitals all over the country, doctors still attempt to cure depression without making patients aware of the very relief that is available to them for free.Some cases of severe, deep-seated depression might need medication and long-term therapy, but some mild depression, ordinary sadness can be paused by having the person take action. Imagine if every depressed person knew and learned and remembered that a person cannot remain depressed if they are continuously taking action, then maybe thousands or millions of patients would begin taking action in their own lives. Though, there are times when you are simply depressed and you try action and yet you stay depressed even while being active. Most people "quit' there and go back to inaction. Yet, if you just keep at the action, keep being active, even if you still feel depressed while being active, your activity will soon win out over the depression. The key is to be determined and continue to be active. Think about it. The most severely depressed individuals sit still or remain in bed all day and all night. If they could bring themselves to move, to take some steps, to get out of bed, to go for a walk, and if they could convince themselves to do this every day or a few times a day, eventually their action would win out over their inaction.

If you find yourself being mildly depressed, the very best medicine for you at that exact moment would be to take action. Taking some good, positive actions in your life will help you get back to yourself, as you were before you were depressed. So, how does one treat himself to relieve his own depression when they are living alone or when they have no one counseling them?

If you are mildly depressed, I suggest that you take action. Take some ordinary actions such as these:
• Go to the library and find the self-help section. Find books by Wayne W. Dyer, Og Mandino. Look through the shelves in that section and find every book that is applicable to you and your life. Read the books right there at the library. Find the book called, The Greatest Miracle in the World by Og Mandino. Look at the book called, The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz, and remember to locate that book called, The New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.
• Go to the bookstore, the one that has the headphones. Hang out in the music section and listen to all kinds of music. If you can afford to buy some music, then do so.
• Call some friends or relatives and arrange a visit. Get outdoors.
• See nature. Visit a park.
• Check your local newspapers and find out where the festivals are and attend some.
Feeling suicidal? Sometimes when you are depressed, you might have suicidal thoughts and feelings also. It makes sense. The pain of depression is so awful that some just want to be relieved of the pain and want that so bad that they begin thinking and feeling suicidal. Think different. Yes, I said think different. Put different thoughts in your head. Know and remind yourself that it is not life that you truly want to leave but it is the pain that you want to leave. So keep that in mind. If you are feeling suicidal, the best thing to do is to call a suicide hotline in your country. If you don’t have anybody to call or talk to, You can email me for help.

Smoking Can Worsen Depression-10 Reasons Why You Should Quit Smoking.

Smoking can lead to depression

Smoking is one of the vices that is very difficult to give up, but the following 10 reasons to quit smoking can definitely help you to give it up:

Avoid heart attack and strokes - I'm sure you would like to lead a long and healthy life. This is possible only if you stop smoking. Smoking can increase the risk of suffering a heart attack, as well as a stroke. Most people find this to be one of the most important 10 reasons to quit smoking.

Quit to Reduce stress - as it is, the pace of life today is very stressful. When you smoke you become even more stressed. So, by quitting smoking you can feel more relaxed and bring the stress in your life under your control and not let smoking control you.

You Stink! - Smokers typically don't smell very good. By quitting smoking, your clothes will smell better, your mouth will taste better, and your nose will work better. People will be more attracted to you when you don't smell like you have been smoking. Most people who don't smoke do not like being around those who do because of the smell.

Increase your sexual power - if you want to enjoy a healthy sex life, you need to quit smoking, as smokers are known to suffer from erectile dysfunction more often than non-smokers. You will not need to face any tension the next time you are involved sexually with your partner if you give up smoking.

Avoid getting cancer - smokers always face a higher risk of getting cancer of the nose, lung, mouth and the throat.

Preserve your teeth - if you are one of those people who take pride in their appearance, then you should know that smoking causes harm to your teeth and makes them look yellow.

Keep away headaches - smoking is known to cause headaches in many people. So, avoiding smoking will help you to experience fewer headaches.

Enhance your sense of smell and taste - smoking is known to diminish your sense of smell and taste. You can now enjoy both of these senses to the fullest by quitting smoking. Food will smell and taste better than ever before. You will feel like eating more food once you quit smoking, as you can appreciate it in the best possible way.

Effective Way Of Treating Depression

If you are faced with problem of depression.There Certain things you have to do to overcome it.It is my beleif that effective depression treatment can cure the most severe cases.Here are a few tips that will help you find a lasting solution to the problem.


1)Don't Isolate Yourself

Isolation plays a big part in the development of depression. The treatment of depression therefore, should include support from family, friends or fellow sufferers. You can also speak to family or friends that you trust or to a church or school official. If you feel there is no one you can discuss your depression with, look for a support group in your area. Sometimes it's easier to speak to strangers especially if they have similar problems to yours!

If you are depressed and feeling particularly down, you can look for online groups or even help lines in your area? Until you find effective depression treatment, you will need a lifeline to reach out to. Don't be afraid to speak to someone. It can be the first step in treating or curing your depression.

2)Recognize That You Are Not Alone

One of the reasons many sufferers do not seek depression treatment is that there is a stigma attached to depression, however, it's one of the fastest growing mental disorders in the world and is a problem you share with millions of others just like you.

Think about it - depression is an ailment like any other. You wouldn't try and hide a cold would you nor would you try to mend a broken arm yourself. Seeking depression treatment is exactly the same as seeking treatment for any other illness or injury.



3)Admit You Have a Problem

Just like everything else in life, effective depression treatments - first depends on your admit that there is a problem and then making the commitment to fix it. Half hearted attempts at depression treatment will always end in less than satisfactory results. Bear in mind that around ninety percent of all suicides are the result of no proper treatment.


4)Aim for a Holistic Approach

You may think that just because you are attending therapy sessions and taking anti depressants, that's it for your depression treatment. While no one can argue that these are effective methods, there are several others that can aid in your treatment and recovery from this debilitating disorder. Be proactive and find out more about the other therapies out there and then incorporate them into your depression treatment plan.

Exercise, diet and even natural remedies and treatments can all play a part in an effective holistic treatment for your depression and will certainly not do any harm. If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with depression, make a point of investigating alternative and supplementary therapies then check with your therapist and try those that appeal to you.

Don’t Allow Depression To Hinder Your Greatness In Life.

Depression is a killer of dreams and visions. We must not allow it to hinder us from becoming great in life.The world is a mixed bag of sorts and odds, apples and oranges.You choose which and what you become.
There was a school classroom which was heated by an old-fashioned, pot-bellied coal stove. A little boy had the job of coming to school early each day to start the fire and warm the classroom before his teacher and his classmates arrived.

One morning they arrived to find the classroom engulfed in flames.They dragged the unconscious 8 years old boy out of the flaming building. He had major burns over the lower half of his body and somehow, to the amazement of the physician who predicted his death,he survived. After many weeks the doctor told the mother that it would almost be better if he had died,since he was doomed to be a lifetime cripple with no use at all of his lower limbs. Once more the brave boy made up his mind,he would not be a cripple,  he would walk.

Ultimately, through his persistence and resolute determination, he did developed the ability to stand up, then to walk by a stick, then to walk by himself and then to run. He began to walk to school. Later in college, he made the track team. Still later in Madison square Garden, this young man who was not expected to survive, who would surely never walk, who could never hope to run, this determined young man,  Dr Glenn Cunningham ran the world’s fastest mile. You must endure things to be great. Listen:everything happens for a reason and there is hope for brighter days even in the most desolate of circumstances, never give up! Endure! Hold on.

How To Turn Your Mistakes To Your Advantage

Are you depressed because of the mistakes you have made in the past.I want you to know that you can’t seize your future while you’re obsessing over your past.Nobody starts out being good at everything.Tackling new ventures usually means learning by trial and error.It is not wrong to make a mistake in life.When you run away from mistakes you are simply making a mistake.Mistake is the path-way to perfection and is a way of living.Mistakes happen! Not only do they happen,they are quaranteed to happen. The only way you won’t make mistakes is if you don’t do anything and that itself is a mistake.Too many people are afraid to try something new because they feel they might make mistakes.They are both right and wrong.Yes,they will probably make mistakes but it is good to understand that errors are the raw materials for heroes.You never accomplish great or worth while things without risk and risk generally means great mistake potential.

To turn your mistakes to your advantage:

1)Admit your mistakes.Why don’t we?

a)Pride:we’ve an image to uphold.

b)Insecurity:ourself-worth is based on our performance.

c)Stubborness:we’d rather flog a dead horse than bury it.

2)Accept mistakes as the price of progress.Learn to view failure as a healthy,inevitable part of succeeding.Nothing is perfect in life.

3)Insist on learning from your mistakes.when you try to avoid failure at all cost.You never learn and you end up repeating the same mistakes.

The way to avoid mistakes is experience.The way to get experience is by mistakes.Don;t feel bad because you messed up with something in your past.All great people did.While one person hesitates because he feels inferior another is busy making mistakes and becoming superior.(Henry C.Link).

What To Do When You Are Bitter

Maybe your whole being is struggling complaining and crying for justice. You may even find it difficult to forgive yourself or pardon others who have offended you. Yes indeed, you may have been wronged, slandered, persecuted and you cannot get over it. may be the more you try to shake it off this burden the worse you become.

Here are five keys to overcome bitterness:

1. Process your grief: Emotions like fear, anger, worry, depression, resentment, helplessness and grief are normal. It's no good to suppress them or deny they exist. God created us to feel. He doesn't expect us to act happy when we're grieving.

2. Accept help. It's a mistake to isolate yourself in the aftermath of a tragedy. We all need the encouragement of others

3. Choose the right response:when you choose bitterness, you hurt yourself and shut the door on happiness because you cannot be happy and bitter at the same time. During some recent California wildfires there were victims who said, we've lost everything and we're sad, but we'll work together as a family rebuild, other said. 'my life's over! I can't go on... I 'II never recover. You can choose to believe you're on your own, or that God's with you and bounce back.

4. Know your joy comes from God. There's no correlation between your circumstances and your joy. Joy comes from within;It's based on whom you trust not what you see and feel.

5. Concentrate on what you have left. not on what you've lost. Make a list of the good things in your life and thank God for what you still have. It's impossible to be grateful and hopeless at the same time.

How To Prevent Your Child From Being Depressed

Depression has been one of the major problems facing children all over the world.Parents have a role to play in helping their children from getting depression and I think the best way to do this is to train up your child in the way he should go.The words ‘the way he should go mean:the way best suited to your child’s unique make up,abilities and God given personality’Perfectionism violates these characteristics,encouraging your child to be something they were not intended to be in order to gain approval.To help your child overcome this:
1) Convince them that they are valuable to God and you because of who they are,not because of what they accomplish.
2) Help them to understand that it’s impossible to complete every assignment without errors.Train them to think about mistakes as opportunities to experiment,clarify personal values,learn and improve their skills,thinking and decision-making.
3) Share with them your mistakes and poor decisions.Discuss your flaws and how you have grown through them.
4) Explain that perfectionists get ‘ tunnel vision’,locking themselves into limited and limiting options for problem-solving.Explain that there is more than one way to solve a problem,organize a project and get things done.Discuss some of these other ways as a means of expanding their perceptions and introducing greater flexibility into their life
5) Celebarte the effort,not just the result.Praise things unrelated to achievement such as generosity,honesty and kindness
6)Reduce their pressure.Do they really need all those advanced courses or to participate in every extra curricular activity? Perfectionism is too much of a good thing,it starts early and they don’t ‘grow out of it’naturally.Helping reduce it systematically will improve your child’s quality of life.

The Relationship Between Depression And Failure

Depression and Failure are like two Siamese twins.Failure has been one of the major reasons why a lot of people are depressed.Many people breakdown psychologically, mentally,spiritually and even physically when they experience certain disappointments of life.When hopes and expectations have been built up so high and the unexpected happens;  it destabilizes some people to the point that they totally breakdown.

You must know and prepare your mind that failure is only an event and not the final destination.The best way to cope with life irrespective of its very contradictions is to decide not to miss what you did not get. The feelings of oh! I missed it again, why me, what have I done wrong,when will I get out of this, who is after my life? will I ever make it again and will I ever become somebody of repute in life etc can kill or make someone psychologically imbalance.

Aviod the feelings of shame,hopelessness and regrets because you can still be happy in life despite what you did not get.Everything depends on your mindset.if you keep crying after what you have lost, there will be no time to prepare for what is next.you will do a lot of damage to yourself if you keep missing what you did not get. Whether it is in the area of relationship, marriage, business opportunities, traveling chance, positioning in the office or material things, once you have tried your best and it did not happen or it happened but could not be sustained, just forget it and move on with life.

Whenever you are in a fix,take a concrete decision because it is the decision you take when things happen to you that will determine its effect on you. You can get of out depression bytrivalizing your problems. No one is problem or challenge free. The only difference is that some carry theirs on the head while some put theirs under the feet.

How To Help Your Child Overcome Depression

Depression is an elusive illness that affects the young today. There has been cases of children who thought killing themselves is the best solution to get out of depression.. Statistics have shown that four out of every 100 teenagers experience some sort of serious depression each year. Parents whose children are experiencing depression have a role to play in helping their children to get out of this mental illness. To help you your child overcome depression, make him or her feel loved and accepted.

One of the difficult things children must deal with are the lies that come into their minds masquerading as truth:I’m not loved,’I’m not accepted.’ I’m not appreciated’ I’m not attractive’, I’m not good enough, I’m too fat, “too thin’ ‘too tall”. “too short”, “too dumb,” ‘too smart”, “too everything” These lies escalate as children move into their teenage years and often are carried into adulthood..

You need to respond with love, kindness and support if your child is experiencing depression. The opposite of being loved and accepted is being rejected-something we’ve all experienced at one time or the other in our lives.Who among us has never felt embarrassment, humiliation, failure, fault, or someone disapproival over something we’ve done? Wether it be by a family member, a friend, or a complete stranger, rejection happens to all of us.

Some people can let such incident roll-off their backs, because they know, deep within,  that they are accepted.others,  however, may bear deep emotional wounds from incident after incident of rejection, so any perceived lack of acceptance can transform their personalities into something ugly.

That’s why rejection is at the root of so much of the evil we read about in the news papers every day. A rejected worker goes back to his former place of employment and shoots his boss and co-workers. A rejected husband beats or kills his wife.  A mother whio has been rejected by others abuses her child.  Rejection brings out the worst in people, love and acceptance bring out the best.

My Husband Is Depressed-What Should I Do?

There are numerous life events that can cause depression but if the partners have mutual understanding and loving relation, together they tend to deal with all the depression causing life events. Here are some symptoms of depression which can help you diagnose this evil.

* Gradual change in behavior, irritating nature
* Unable to tolerate even little noise or laughter.
* Sleep Sickness
* Love to remain isolated and silent
* Lost desire for sex
* Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness
* Lost charm of life, suicidal thoughts

Your married life is an important part or better said the most important part to keep all other do’s of life perfect. Here are some tips to steer clear of depression and make your married life healthy and happy.

* Enjoy a healthy lifestyle with lively thoughts, well balanced diet and regular work out. .
* Learn to create balance in your life by saying NO to overload or extra responsibilities.
* Share your feelings with your spouse or close friend. You will feel relaxed after letting lose the burden.
* Educate yourself and your partner about depression. Being aware about the signs, symptoms and causes leaves a great impact on the issue and keeps you away from depression and its negative consequences.
* Never let the issues or marital problems unresolved. Solve them immediately as they arise to avoid future blast.
* Take out sufficient time for your partner and do something you both really enjoy.
* Believe in yourself, your partner and God. Emotions and Lord the prime strength and protector of your married life.