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Friday, March 12, 2010

What To Do When You Are Bitter

Maybe your whole being is struggling complaining and crying for justice. You may even find it difficult to forgive yourself or pardon others who have offended you. Yes indeed, you may have been wronged, slandered, persecuted and you cannot get over it. may be the more you try to shake it off this burden the worse you become.

Here are five keys to overcome bitterness:

1. Process your grief: Emotions like fear, anger, worry, depression, resentment, helplessness and grief are normal. It's no good to suppress them or deny they exist. God created us to feel. He doesn't expect us to act happy when we're grieving.

2. Accept help. It's a mistake to isolate yourself in the aftermath of a tragedy. We all need the encouragement of others

3. Choose the right response:when you choose bitterness, you hurt yourself and shut the door on happiness because you cannot be happy and bitter at the same time. During some recent California wildfires there were victims who said, we've lost everything and we're sad, but we'll work together as a family rebuild, other said. 'my life's over! I can't go on... I 'II never recover. You can choose to believe you're on your own, or that God's with you and bounce back.

4. Know your joy comes from God. There's no correlation between your circumstances and your joy. Joy comes from within;It's based on whom you trust not what you see and feel.

5. Concentrate on what you have left. not on what you've lost. Make a list of the good things in your life and thank God for what you still have. It's impossible to be grateful and hopeless at the same time.


  1. Ayedera,
    I just stepped right into this great blog at this time of my depression. Very soothing advice.

    I like all but No. 2 stands out for me."..It's a mistake to isolate yourself in the aftermath of a tragedy..."

    Thank you my dear friend for being there for me. This is Senior Debutante.

  2. Hi Ayedera

    Great to meet you. You have some really great tips on this site. I look forward to keeping in touch :)

    Many Blessings,


  3. Thank you for giving assistance to those who are in grief. It would be a great help for encouraging people to continue life in spite of the odds. Keep it up! :)

  4. Very practical and sound advices on how to overcome bitterness. We must always focus on the love of God for us so that we will not be affected ny negative emotions and feelings. Thanks for the post. God bless.

  5. Two thumbs up! Keep up the good work! :)


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