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Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Tips On How To Turn Depression To Joy

Depression is the most prevalent disease of our time. Under the guise of informing the public, both the medical profession and the media are constantly "warning" us of the dangers and probabilities of the disease most likely to terminate us. News about a lack of sufficient influenza vaccine is enough to get our collective blood pressure soaring.

The following tips we help us to turn depression to joy:

Watch Your Tongue!

The power of life and death are in the tongue. Words can both bless and curse. Negative words can evoke great fear and anxiety. The mind paints a picture of every word we hear or see. Although words are not tangible, they have the power to bring about physical matter! The earth was created by the Word of God's Power! Negative words always produce negative impulses, whether minute or major. Conversely, positive words make you feel good. A mere smile and a happy: "Have a great day!" instantly exude warmth. So, be careful of what you allow to sink deeply into your subconscious.

Happiness Is a Choice

We can choose to dwell on bad news and perpetuate it by speaking about it, or to swiftly replace our thoughts and words with constructive ones. Whenever we hear good music, our feet start tapping, we’re humming the melody, and pretty soon we're happy. Our thoughts respond to what we feed the mind through our senses. Therefore, we CAN choose to be happy! Start practicing to switch off the minuses in your life and concentrate on the pluses.

Gratitude; the Antidote

Thankfulness is one of the greatest virtues. If you divided a page in two and wrote all your setbacks on one side and all the blessings on the other, you would find that your blessings far outnumber the negatives. The Bible says to give thanks with a grateful heart for all things.

Live One Day At a Time

The Bible admonishes us to live each day to the fullest as there's enough evil in one day to handle! Don't look back on past hurts, nor fret about tomorrow. Live today as if it is the only day you have. Make each day so full of the present that yesterday and its problems are completely shut out and tomorrow is unattainable! Choose to focus all your thoughts and energy on what is at hand, and do everything to the best of your ability.

God Is In Control!

Start each day by thanking God, your creator and loving father. He knew you before you were born and knows your end. Spend time in the Word, especially the Psalms. You will receive a new refreshing, empowerment and warmth.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Why Some Women Are Depressed

Hormones - Moods are, to a greater extent than men's influenced by hormonal changes. A high percentage of women who are fighting the daily battle known as depression report a fluctuation of symptoms that coincides with their menstrual cycle. Attuned from adolescence to the phenomenon of moods that change according to forces that seem outside of their control, women may be more prone to the feeling of being powerlessness. At the same time, women whose depression worsens during the premenstrual period have lower levels of serotonin than they do postmenstrual and lower levels than women without PMS. Serotonin is one of the neurotransmitter hormones responsible for brain communication and is thought to be one of the big three in depression cause and treatment; norepinephrine, dopamine, and serotonin. Other areas that that play a role in depression in women are cultural and social factors. A woman self esteem may be reliant on her marriage, her children, or social status. If for some reason she loses her rock of stability then depression may not be far behind. Additionally women who have been sexually or physically abused are likely to experience bouts of depression. Other depression triggers include: Loss of income or reduction in income Stress and anxiety Overload of daily responsibilities Childcare Career setbacks Pregnancy In summary, women have challenging roles. They must be able to juggle multiple tasks effectively while gently keeping their spouse moving in the right direction. Women are basically the foundation that holds most American household together, and the demands placed on them are tremendous. If you are a woman with depression there is help out there, the challenge is finding the right treatment for your particular situation.

Tips On How to Communicate With a Man With Depression

How do you talk to someones who's not talking? How do you help a man help himself? Ugg!!!

Somethings wrong with your guy, but all you hear, "Don't worry about me, I'm fine." Symptoms of major depression last for two weeks or more.

Steps on how to communicate with a Man with Depression.

Step#1 Don't Ask if He's Depressed?

Men shame easily when suffering from depression. To hear Are you Depressed,? he may withdraw instantly. Possibly lashing out with anger. Be gentle, caring. You know your Man. Ask, You don't seem to have energy. Are you OK? Do you feel OK? Why don't you get checked out?" The stigma surrounding depression makes it nearly impossible for men to speak about it directly. Be Patient and non-threatening.

Step #2 Withdrawal of Love Doesn't Work

You may get frustrated with his non-reply, but using affection as a bargaining chip doesn't work. If he's depressed this may increase his feeling of helplessness. Again you risk withdrawal, risky behavior, increase alcohol/drug use. Remember he can't just "Snap Out of It."

Step#3 Get Educated about Depression

Knowledge of symptoms, risk factors makes you better able to empower him. Myths, misinformation destroys all attempts to get him to empower himself. Because, in the end only he can save himself. 78% of all married men who visited a doctor had been influenced to do so by their wives.

Step#4 You Must Take Care of You First

Find support. Speak with trusted family members, speak with other women who may have gone through it with their mate. Join a depression support group. Depression takes a toll on everyone. If you're supporting him, who's supporting you? Don't be a damn superwoman! Don't take his illness personal. You get empower also!

Step#5 Stay With It

Stay consistent with seeking help from a Physician. Don't be fooled by episodes of "He Seems better" "A Pray Session" "or Good Sex" Major depression undiagnosed will eventually halt him emotionally, physically and psychologically. Give him Love and Education for treatment and you would have done all that you could control. Empower him, and he'll make the right decision for both of you.

Tips On How To Destroy Depression and Build Your Marriage

Depression and marriage don't mix. Even great marriages can fall apart when one of the couple suffers from depression.

It is important, then, to recognize some of the common thought patterns of depressed people in order to be compassionate with them and to be able to help them break these thoughts and return to normal life.

Read on to learn 3 destructive thoughts that were identified by Dr. Aaron Beck.

1. Mental filter - A common pattern in depressed people is that they only see their failures and inadequacies and are blind to their successes. For instance, if they make a joke at a party and everyone except for one person laughs, they perceive this to be that NO ONE thinks that they know how to tell a joke. If they prepare an elaborate meal for the in-laws and one thing gets burnt, they feel like the whole meal was ruined and they don't how to cook.

A lot of times the "non-suffering' spouse doesn't understand why they are feeling so bad since they see how delicious the WHOLE meal was or how 99% of the people laughed at his joke.

Keep this in mind and gently point out to them their successes until they will also admit to themselves that they are not as bad as they see it.

2. Disqualifying the positive. Even if you are able to bring to their attention their successes, they immediately dismiss your argument and give an excuse why it happened. "Yea, you know them, they laugh at anything" or "They are such nice people. They only laughed to make me feel good."

In the example of the meal with the in-laws, she might say, "Those things? They are so easy to make anyone can do it". Be prepared for this reaction and don't fall for their explanations. Gently point out that they don't always laugh at jokes or the other courses of the meals are also hard to cook. Stick to your guns.

3. Personalization- With this thought pattern the person suffering from depression sees themselves as the cause of botch ups and failures even though they are not really responsible.

Saturday, August 15, 2009

Men and Depression - How to Help a Depressed Man and Keep Your Relationship Strong

Men do get depressed but they tend to hide it well. Men tend to deal with depression differently than women and may show different signs that they are depressed. Depression is often a hidden problem with men, since many men tend to suffer in silence, rather than talking about their feelingsAnd that can lead to relationship problems.

Historically, depression has been thought of as mostly a problem for women, but now we know that depression is a problem for men, too. Depression in men may go undetected. In fact, men may not realize they are depressed, although they may recognize they are feeling stressed. And their health care providers often miss the telltale signs.

Depression is a normal part of life. Yet, if it goes unresolved, it can have a disastrous affect on personal functioning, relationships and careers. Thus, depression is a condition that must be recognized and treated for men to function on their highest level.

What Are The Signs?
1. Men who are depressed may suddenly become irritable and quick to anger. Non-aggressive men may become more aggressive and hostile.

2. Some may abuse alcohol or drugs, or turn to food for comfort, although some may eat less. It really depends on the person and his circumstances.

3. Some men may over-exercise, while others may stop.

4. One man may throw himself into a favorite hobby whereas a workaholic may become more dependent upon work ...while ignoring his relationships.

5. Men may show typical signs of depression, too, such as, feelings of fatigue and burn-out, sleep disturbances and decreased libido. Thought patterns may change; men may think more negatively and perceive the world in darker, more threatening ways. This can be a subtle change. Depressed men may start feeling anxious and worried, and respond poorly to daily problems or stress at work or home, either over-reacting or under-reacting.

Strategies for Helping A Depressed Man:

First, if you notice that a man you care about is depressed, don't beat him over the head with your observations; be careful how you approach the subject, or you may make your relationship problems worse. You might try sharing your concern with him, mentioning that you have noticed one or two of his symptoms. Go gently ...and see if you can get him to open up about how he's feeling. Express your concern. Avoid being critical. Don't blame. Just listen and tell him how concerned you are.

Secondly, if you know someone the depressed man knows and respects, such as his father, pastor or best friend, suggest that he talk to that person. Or, you may enlist the help of a family member or close friend who has his ear.

Thirdly, try to get him to see his doctor (or yours), and encourage him to talk to his doctor about his depressed feelings (maybe he needs to go for other reasons, too). The physician can make a referral for counseling or prescribe helpful anti-depressant medication, if needed.

Fourthly, sometimes we men need a little prodding (and pampering). Be persistent and don't give up, as long as you proceed in a non-threatening manner. Remember, you want the man to view your efforts to help him as a sign of your deep-felt concern, rather than an attempt to nag or harass him. He won't end up feeling pressured by you if you always state your concern in non-demanding ways.

The way you say something is as important as what you say. Some sensitive men are hard to approach, but they tend to respond favorably when you talk to them in a direct, caring and gentle manner. Avoid allowing your body language or tone of voice to express anger or contempt.
If you are in an intimate relationship with a depressed partner, it is often best to seek counseling. It is much easier and more effective to sit down with a trained relationship professional to discuss your relationship problems.  Counseling is one of the best ways to face and deal with depression. It can be just as effective as medication, if not more so. The combination of the two can be even more effective. Sometimes depression can become quite serious and lead to other mental health issues. It is best to take it seriously.

Monday, July 20, 2009

Getting Back With Your Ex-Lover - Start by Avoiding Depression

Your lover of many years broke up with you and left you. Now you don't feel like eating anything, love songs make you want to cry and you just lie in the bed all day. If you continue like that, you will get in a depression and your chances of getting back with your ex-lover will be zero.

Your lover didn't fall in love with you because you are a weak and depressed person. I know it's so hard to accept that the relationship is over, but the truth is it may not be over. Often, a break up is important to make us realize the importance of the other person in our lives. If you both have loved each other dearly, the love won't just disappear in a snap.

Everyday we see couples getting back together after having been separate for months. Heck, I once read about one couple who got married 35 years after their break up, now that's love. There is no magic spell that is going to seduce your ex and make him or her come back to you. It's all about how we humans behave.

But before you learn the "tricks" to win back the love, you must first get a hold of yourself and avoid depression at all costs. If you are showing the following signs, then you might be falling into depression and you need to take action immediately:

  • sleeping most part of your day
  • not feeling hungry
  • not feeling like going out
  • consuming more than usual sweets and chocolates

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Depression: Based on a True Story

“Ring, ring.” The crisis operator answers the phone to a woman pleading to let her daughter know that she loves her. The woman spent her day writing letters to friends and loved ones, expressing her thoughts and emotions. From the loaded gun on the table to the rope hanging from the attic, it was a well-thought out plan (Lewis, Pamela, 2003).

Have you ever felt life was not worth living? Have you wished you were dead? Have you had any thoughts of taking your own life? It began October of 1998, while my husband and I were on our way home from the grocery store. The cellular phone rings. My husband answers. He then tells the caller that we are on our way there. His tone of voice sounded frightened and worried. I repeatedly asked, “What is going on? Why are you driving so fast?”

“Something has happened to your mother!”, he exclaimed. I had fifteen minutes to prepare myself for the worst, yet I did not know exactly what I was preparing for. As we arrived to the scene, numerous police vehicles, two ambulances, the local rescue squad, private investigators, negotiators, and the SWAT team had one half of a mile from my house blocked off. As we came to a stop, I jumped out of the car crying and screaming, while trying to find answers as to what has happened. A police officer then pulled me aside. The young man explained that my mother was attempting suicide due to her depression.

As the number one public health problem, four to 8 percent of the U.S. population experience or have experienced a clinical depressed syndrome (Klerman, Gerald, pg. 27). Depression is a mental illness that requires immediate medical attention. Because depression is so widespread, it is often called the ‘common cold’ (Koop, Everett, 1996). The difference between a cold and depression is that depression, if not treated, can lead to the death of an individual.

Depression occurs when nerve cells, or neurons, fail to communicate with each other due to a chemical imbalance in the brain (Koop, Everett, 1996). A neuron is a specialized cell that conducts messages through the nervous system. Two neurons communicate with each other by electrical impulses or signals. The point of communication where electrical signals carry a message between two neurons is called a synapse. Separating the sending neurons and receiving neurons from the axon terminal are tiny, fluid-filled gaps called synaptic clefts. Chemicals called neurotransmitters dock at receptor sites, thus igniting the electrical signal of that neuron. After the signal is delivered, the neurotransmitters float back to the neuron that sent them. This process is called reputake.

Researchers have found many causes or reasons for depression. Usually, depression is caused by a deficiency in the neurotransmitter serotonin or norepinephrine (Morgan, Marie, pg. 75). Serotonin helps regulate mood, sleep, aggression, and appetite. Norepinephrine affects wakefulness, alertness, and also appetite. In some cases hereditary, personality traits, stress, and lack of supportive relationships are linked to depression. Other causes for depression are helplessness, sense of loss, isolation, and unresolved anger (Koop, Everett, 1996). Through your eyes, you see the world as a series of positive, neutral, or negative events. These events are interrupted through a group of thoughts that constantly flow through your mind. This is called your internal dialogue. Created by your thoughts is your feelings or mood. Before an emotional response can be experienced what you are feeling or what is happening to you (Burns, David, pg. 30). Therefore, the negative thoughts that process through your mind are actually the cause of your emotions.

Your negative thoughts, or cognitions, are the most overlooked symptoms of depression. Symptoms are feelings or behaviors that disturb normal functioning (Heitler, Susan, pg.47). A depressed person may show signs, such as a loss of pleasure or interest in usual activities, feelings of worthlessness, guilt, decrease in the ability to think or concentrate, and a loss of energy and appetite (Koop, Everett, 1996). The assessments of symptoms include specifying troubled behaviors and feelings, the history of the symptoms and diagnosing the problem (Heitler, Susan, pg. 49). Other symptoms include crying excessively, negative thoughts about the future and even thoughts of death or suicide (Koop, Everett, 1996).

Suicide is the deliberate taking of one’s own life, which accounts for 5 percent of clinically depressed patients (Burns, David, pg. 383). Suicide rates have increased in children and adolescents since the 1990's (Burns, David, pg. 9).

Why do depressed individuals often think of suicide? Persuasive and pessimistic visions dominate their thoughts. To them, life seems to be a nightmare. When a depressed person thinks of the past, she only remembers moments of suffering and pain (Burns, David, pg. 384). Researchers have proven that the unrealistic sense of hopelessness is one of the most important factors in the plans for a serious suicidal wish or thought (Burns, David, pg. 385). A famous myth remains today: An unsuccessful suicide attempt is simply a means of getting attention and is not to be taken seriously (Burns, David, pg. 387). The fact is that all attempts are to be taken very seriously. Because a depressed individual’s pain and suffering may feel unbearable and never ending, she may conclude that suicide is the only escape. In reality, medical treatment and attention will help the individual overcome depression.

Many researchers have described therapy as an opportunity for people to deal with their conflict of everyday living (Heitler, Susan, pg. 7). Consulting with a professional, such as a psychologist or a psychiatrist, can be a nice beginning for treatment. With a Ph.D. in psychology and other related fields, a psychologist serves the public through research, testing, and psychotherapy (Hauck, Paul, pg. 134). Psychotherapy is an important means of treatment for certain types of emotional or mental disorders. Usually working with the patient alone, a psychologist allows her to express feelings and emotions of life’s battles. At the end of each session, the psychologist gives simple, step by step advice to the patient. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who specializes in counseling clients with psychiatric, neurologic, and medical conditions (Reference International Publishers, LTD, pg. 18). During a period of one to six visits, the doctor will be discussed with the patient and followed upon regularly (Reference International Publishers, LTD, pg. 187). A psychiatrist also prescribes and administers medication, usually antidepressants, with the referral from a psychologist (Hauck, Paul, pg.135).

Antidepressants are drugs that are prescribed to treat depression and some anxiety disorders. The most widely prescribed drugs, tricyclic antidepressants, enhance the potency of the brain’s neurotransmitters in the synapse. Some agents of tricyclic drugs are Imipramine, Desipramine, Amitriptyline, Nortriptyline, Protriptyline, and Doxepin (Burns, David, pgs. 430-432). Side effects, such as dry mouth, constipation and blurred vision, disappear after the first few days (Burns, David, pg. 432). MAO inhibitors cause elevations in the levels of amine neurotransmitters, thus, correcting the chemical imbalance in the brain. The most commonly prescribed trade names for MAO inhibitors are Marplan, Nardil, and Parnate. Similar to tricyclic drugs, the side effects of MAO inhibitors are dry mouth, lightheadedness, trouble urinating, a rash, and constipation or loose stools (Burns, David, pg. 440). MAO inhibitors, if not taken properly can produce serious effects. Blood pressure may rise of certain foods or drugs containing a substance called tyramine, which interferes with the brain’s ability to regulate blood pressure, while taking a MAO inhibitor (Burns, David, pg. 441). Lithium carbonate is another antidepressant drug used to treat severe depression. Although lithium is simply salt, it does have many side effects, such as hand tremors, nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea, that usually taper off within a week or soon after (Morgan, Marie, pg. 78). Long term effects of lithium include blackouts, headache, slurred speech, weight changes, fatigue, and hypotension (Morgan, Marie, pg. 70). Valium is an antidepressant that suppresses anxiety and covers up symptoms rather than getting at the causes (Morgan, Marie, pg. 78).

Although addictive and may worsen depression, some doctors use minor tranquilizers or sedatives to treat anxiety and nervousness (Burns, David, pg. 444). Sleeping pills are used to help treat insomnia. These pills become highly addictive as they disrupt normal sleep patterns and greatly worsen the sleeping problem. For example, my mother was given the drug, Ambien, because she was having trouble falling and staying asleep. She awoke often only to take another pill because she was still not able to sleep well. Ambien gave her short-term amnesia and disrupted her sleep instead of helping her sleep. She ended up in the emergency room for an accidental overdose (Lewis, Pamela, 2003). I almost lost her again to a drug that was supposed to help her. There are at least a dozen different antidepressants that are effective for some patients, while for others, the results may be disappointing or harmful. Reoccurrences of depression can happen at any time a person stops taking medication as prescribed just because they ‘think’ they are better. In some cases a depressed person may need an increase or even a change in medication after an evaluation with a doctor or therapist. In the near future, researchers will hopefully advance the understanding of antidepressant drugs and how they affect the human brain.

It sometimes, seems that the more hopeless and severe the depression was, the more extraordinary and delicious the taste of happiness and self-esteem is. As you begin to feel better, the pessimistic thoughts will go away like the melting of the winter snow when spring arrives. You may even wonder how you ever could believe such thought in the first place. Because the change of negative to more neutral or positive thinking can be so dramatic, a person may be convinced that the depression has vanished forever. But that simply is not true because there is a mood disorder that remains. A depressed person who feels better must understand what caused the depression and be able to apply and reapply self-help techniques whenever needed. Acquiring self-confidence and self-esteem is a must to getting better. Focusing on happy memories and keeping positive thoughts will decrease the recurrence of depression. Lowering one’s standards to prevent disappointment and learning from one’s own mistakes will also help a person overcome depression.

My mother has beat the battle of depression after six months in Zellar, the old local mental institution, and years of learning how to cope with life’s emotional stress. Trying to resume her original lifestyle was the most difficult obstacle to getting better. Her suicidal attempt was reported on the front page of the Peoria Journal Star. Not only did they have the wrong information about the depressing event, they also labeled her and tried to press charges against her for trying to take her own life. Returning to work, she was stereotyped as ‘crazy’ or ‘insane’ instead of strong and hopeful for fighting the horrifying condition. It has been five years since her breakdown and she now lives a wonderful and happy life. She states, “I am proud to be here today!” (Lewis, Pamela, 2003). If you know anyone who shows any signs of depression or has thoughts of death, help them. Be their friend and give them positive reinforcement. Show them they are loved and needed in your life and many others. Most important, get them help because not every depressed person knows they are depressed, therefore they may not be able to help themselves.

Saturday, June 6, 2009

Tips On How To Conquer Depression

Millions of people suffer from a depressive illness. They thought that depression is just a normal occurrence in their lives, which will go away after a short while. They just haven’t realized how serious depression can be.

Did you know that words related to depression have been searched over 993,000 times on the Internet for May 2005 alone? Much attention has been centered to this international health problem as the rigorous challenges of modern times continue to devastate those who cannot cope with it. Extreme depression can ultimately lead to suicide.

No one is safe from being affected by depression because it affects everyone. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a male or female, rich or poor, educated or uneducated. Once a person starts becoming depressed, he or she usually behaves in a manner that intensifies the illness.

Depressed people have some or more of the following characteristics:

• They lose interest on their love life, career, friends, and family.

• They experience loneliness, hopelessness, gloom, and indifference to their surroundings. It is a feeling of extreme despair.

• They seek to escape from problems and even from life itself. Thoughts of leaving home, running away or avoidance of others is common. They feel life is hopeless and worthless. Suicidal thoughts are lurking in their minds.

• There is a tendency to escape from the company of others because of an unexplained fear of being rejected. Their withdrawal consequently brings on some rejection by other people. They cancel scheduled activities, become uninterested to return phone calls, and seek ways to avoid talking with or seeing others.

• They are overly sensitive to what others say and do. They may misinterpret actions and suggestions in a negative way and become irritable because of those mistaken assumptions. They complain and cry a lot.

• They have a general loss of self-esteem. They feel more and more negative about life’s events, and they even question their own personal worth. Their self–confidence level is extremely low.

• They experience negative changes in physical activities––appetite, sleeping and sex. Some lose interest in sexual activities. Some lose interest in food while others gouge themselves with all the stuffs they can eat. Some sleep constantly while others cannot get to sleep easily, or they wake up in the middle of the night and cannot go back to sleep again.

• There is usually an underlying feeling of guilt. They often feel overly responsible for other people’s feelings.

• Depression often makes the depressed dependent upon other people. This further aggravates a feeling of helplessness, which makes them more upset.

• They have difficulty expressing and handling their feelings. Anger is especially difficult for them to control. Because of a sense of worthlessness and lack of knowledge in dealing with their situation, they get more enraged in themselves. This can be directed outward at others.

Above ninety-five percent of even the most depressed individuals can be totally cured if the condition is identified at the early stages. It is essential to know and take action when the early warning signs of depression are manifesting.

Dealing with depression requires first and foremost an understanding that it is a common and treatable illness. Its symptoms include the following:


• Miserable frame of mind over a period of time, sometimes in a number of weeks

• Expresses grief in activities and life in general, and fails to feel satisfaction

• Disheartened thinking - negative approach about oneself, the present and the future

• Difficulty in focusing and remembering

• Under the dilemma in making decisions - often even the more simple ones

• Feelings of unimportance and desperation

• Anxiety - a sense of being afraid - that something “dreadful” is going to happen

• Phobias or doubts about specific situations

• Loss of appetite and weight loss or, alternatively, increased appetite and weight gain

• Disrupted sleeping patterns - not much sleep or wanting to sleep all the time

• Feeling weary and lacking in energy and inspiration

• Loss of interest in sex

• Physical symptoms - aches and pains, gastrointestinal upsets, headaches

• Incapacity to do the usual everyday activities

• Thoughts of suicide

Various people do not try to find treatment in the early stage of depression as they started to observe such symptoms and thought that it will just pass away in a period of time, not noticing how severe the health problem can be.


People with depressive illness are:

• Indifferent, uncommunicative, silent

• Selfish, unaware or insensitive about the needs of others

• Dominant

• Irrational and unreasonable

• Outgoing and pleasant in public, the opposite at home

• Fickle-minded and unpredictable

• Makes unexplainable and sudden references to separation and divorce

• Cruel, belittling, and critical

• Take alcohol and drugs in excessive amounts

The unofficial list of symptoms demonstrate why depressive sickness threatens good relationships and disrupts families. Identifying, understanding, and learning how to cope with depression is the primary solution to end the sufferer’s misery.


These official real-life symptoms are the ones doctors use to diagnose depression.

• A consistent sad, empty, or distressed mood

• Irritability, excessive crying

• Sleep and appetite disturbances

• Chronic aches and pains that don't respond to treatment

• Difficulty in remembering, focusing, and making decisions

• Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism

• Loss of interest or pleasure in activities previously enjoyed, including sex and sports

• Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts

The amazing thing is, is that out of all the so-called ‘mental illnesses’ depression is the easiest to cure. So how come there are hundreds of thousands of people trapped in this very serious state of mind?

Regardless of age, status in the society, or profession, depression may affect anyone. It may exist at times of puberty, after childbirth and/or at mid-life. Thus, this health problem occurs at a specific period of time wherein circumstances of life may influence your mood. Immediate depression may be caused by particular events and losses such as death of a person close to you or reduction of your income. There are also other aspects to be considered, such as inherited factors associated with depression (a history of family depression) or other physical factors (abridged levels of neurotransmitters in the brain).

At various phases of our lives, we have all experienced being “down and troubled.” It is due to the changes in our day-to-day living. It also affects our environment and interaction with others. Sometimes, events apparently cause us to be more upset and we become depressed for over a long period of time.

As everyday events influence our moods, some make the misconception of depression as temporary “blues” or sadness. It might be a normal grief caused by the death of your loved one. People with the “blues” and normal grief might experience short-term symptoms of depression.


The term “depression” is used to express a depressed mood, simultaneously with other symptoms, that exist for a prolonged period of time. When depression is not cured, it may influence normal performance. It is important to recognize that depression is not a sign of frailty or a lack of determination, and not something that you can easily escape from. It is a condition that can be cured through proper treatment.

Because of the link between grief and depression, some make false impressions to both.
Here are some myths that needs to be cleared up.

Depressed People are Mentally Unstable and Inefficient.

As you might experience troubles in making decision and difficulty in concentration and memory, lack of knowledge and misinformation leads to the thought that depressed people are incompetent. This is certainly not true! Because depression is a treatable illness, it can be cured by your own determination and will power. It can be treated faster with the help of others.

Someone Must Have Brought the Depression.

All of us used to admire others and set them as our role models. They might be our parents or other famous personalities. Some people have been mistaken and blamed by others for causing depression. You must understand that depression is a health problem that can only be caused by yourself and nobody is to blame .

Depression is God’s Way of Punishing for Some Wrong Act or Misbehavior.

This is a widespread belief in the midst of sufferers. If a person can’t find the answer for his or her sufferings, then it might tend to make himself or herself more burdened by the depression, causing that person to find something wrong with himself or herself.

This piece of writing describes what depression is and looks at the common causes and symptoms, as well as some of the myths about depression.

No one should be ashamed of being depressed. It might seem so difficult and sometimes unbearable; to draw yourself out of a sinkhole of depression, but it is THE MOST TREATABLE EMOTIONAL PROBLEM. Always remember that you are not a terrible or hopeless person.

Particular self-help methods in this section will seem more suitable for you to use to cope up with your depression. You can try two or three and see if they work. If not, take a break on something else. In general, gaining some optimism about getting better, having a clear viewpoint, and getting family support, along with selected self-help methods, will lead to a better recovery from depression.

Remember – you are not alone in your troubles, and the best way to start is to try and share the load with somebody.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Tips On How To Cope With Suicidal Feelings

The following are some ways to help you cope with suicidal feelings: Tell your therapist, a friend, a family member, or someone else who can help.

Distance yourself from any means of suicide. If you are thinking of taking an overdose, give your medicines to someone who can give them to you one day at a time. Remove any dangerous objects or weapons from your home.

Avoid alcohol and other drugs of abuse.

Avoid doing things you're likely to fail at or find difficult until you're feeling better. Know what your present limits are and don't try to go beyond them until you feel better. Set realistic goals for yourself and work at them slowly, one step at a time.

Make a written schedule for yourself every day and stick to it no matter what. Set priorities for the things that need to be done first. Cross things out on your schedule as you finish them. A written schedule gives you a sense of predictability and control. Crossing out tasks as you complete them gives a feeling of accomplishment.

In your daily schedule don't forget to schedule at least two 30-minute periods for activities which in the past have given you some pleasure such as: listening to music, playing a musical instrument, meditating doing relaxation exercises, doing needlework, reading a book or magazine, taking a warm bath, sewing, writing, shopping, playing games, watching your favorite DVD or video, gardening, playing with your pet, participating in a hobby, taking a drive or a walk.

Take care of your physical health. Eat a well-balanced diet. Don't skip meals. Get as much sleep as you need, and go out for one or two 30-minute walks each day..

Make sure you spend at least 30-minutes a day in the sun. Bright light is good for everyone with depression, not just people with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

You may not feel very social but make yourself talk to other people. Whether you talk about your feelings or about any other topic, reducing your social isolation is likely to be helpful.

Remember that while it may feel as if it will never end, depression is not a permanent condition.

Friday, May 1, 2009

What To Do To Ease Depression Immediately

1. Religious? Say a prayer. Ask God to help you get through this.

2. Get out now and walk fifteen minutes. It will get your feet moving and help you feel you are at least able to do somethin

3. Go immediately and be with someone who loves you. It will give you the feeling that you are wanted.

4. Power of suggestion can do wonders. Say to yourself, "I think I can get better. I have to take it step by step. I will work my way out of this."

5. Think of a situation, a place where you were very happy. Visualize yourself in that situation once more.

6. Go out and buy a plant, or some flowers. Having something living in your house makes you feel more alive.

7. If possible, get outside in the sunshine. If it's not possible, turn on some bright lights. Sunshine and bright light are known to make people happier.

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

What Is Depression?

Depression is a feeling of sadness and hopelessness.Depression is a common problem,it affect at least 2 in 100 children under 12 and 5 in everyday100 teenagers.Depression is even more common in adults.Young people are much more likely to become depressed if they have suffered from abuse or neglect or live in city areas where there are high rate of poverty,unemployment and crime.Depression is a serious and common illness but nowadays there is a great deal of what can be done to help those affected by it.The first step to getting help is to be able to recognice the problem.

what effects can it have?
Because depression affects so many aspects of life,your outlook,how you feel,what you are able to do,it can mean you cope with ordinary daily life much less than usual.Depression increases risk of
1.Drug,alcohol or solvent abuse
2.Self injury such as drug overdose and wrist cutting

It can cause serious problem such as:
1.Difficulty getting on with friends and family.
2.Loss of friends
3.Loss of confidence and difficulty making decisions,inablity to study,work and perform well in exams.
4.Difficulty with day to day tasks
5.Eating problems,turning food for comfort and eating too much or dieting excesscively.
6.Lying,stealing and truanting.

What causes depression?
Depression is commonly caused by a minute of thing rather than any one thing alone.
Some people have experiences that lead to depression.These include family breakdown,abuse,neglect and bullying,serious illnesss and the death or loss of a loved one,people are more at risk of becoming depressed if they have no one to share their worries with,a lot of demand on them and not enough support .Depression often runs in families and someone with a close relative who is affected by depression has a higher risk of becoming depressed themselves.Girls and women are more likely than boys and men to become depressed.

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Depression and Capability

Success is not hereditary.People do not get rich because they are men or women but by developing their capabilities.So,whatever you think or looks like you can do must be developed to bring about your success.Task your brain to produce necessary result because brain is not for decoration but for gains.People have a way of explaining the reasons they failed by blaming it on certain perceived disadvantages.Posses I can make it no matter what mentality, because poverty is not genetic and failure is not a skin disease.You are not in lack because you are black.The fact you are a woman and not a man,black not white,educated but not a graduate,from a poor background not from a rich home,in a village not a city are not the reasons you are the way you are today.

Whether you are a man,woman,old,young,Literate,illiterate etc does not make you a nobody but your refusal to developed the capabilities in you.Self development is what gets things done in life.Even the physically challenged said there is ability in disability.You are capable of doing many things.You can be rich,you can be married,you can bear children,you can be a professional,you can own an enterprise and travel all over the world and fulfil your only need to develop your capabilities.For whatever you do not develop will diminish and eventually disappear.This is one of the reasons many suffer in life.They fail to discover what they have ang even when discovered refuse to developed them.

Take Earlier Action To Get Out Of Depression

There is no situation that cannot change if you will work hard and be patient.a situation not challenged will harden up and become a big problem.It is said a problem not solved will become a hill,a hill not removed will become a mountain and a mountain not addressed will become impossible.Do not leave situations till they get out of hand before you start running around for solution.That is what most people do,but know that problems are better solved in their embryo stage.If you allow them to harden,they become more difficult to get rid off.

The more you allow a matter to drag for too long,the more you give your opponents time to stiffen their positions.Procrastinatuion they say is an enemy of progress.For instance,many patients in the hospital would not have gotten to their pitiable stage if they had consulted their doctors on time.Many marriages would not have collapsed if a respected counselor was contacted on time.So,challenged your situation and it will change .Take a decision concerning your situation.You will have to be decisive in life to create a chance for yourself.No one will give you a chance,it is your decision that will create the chance you desire.Do not shy away from taking firm decisions even if they are hard ones.Make sure you apply correct approach to your situation and it will bring a positive result just as the correct tools will get a job done with ease.That situation before you is waiting for a solution.The solution is within the situation,so calm down and look at it very well,solution well emerge.No situation will stand still in the face of serious and continuous efforts.

Overcome Depression By Apppreciating Your strength

Weaknesses and strength are available and attainable. Every one of us is endowed with the two.There is no pecfect human being on earth; we each have our negatives and positives,minuses and pluses,asset and liabilities.There is no one that is strong all the time and happy all the time.I want you to know that it is you who decides what comes up on you most of the time. A lot of people spend time exaggerating their problems and weaknesses without appreciating that they have their areas of prospects and strength too.In life,whatever you exaggerate aggravates.Whatever song you sing is the dance steps you take.There are many reasons people do that and they are:

Desire for sympathy:Do not seek to be pitied,seek to be envied Human beings always look for people to console,sympathise with and pity.know that your neighbour who you
Secretly envy also has many pitiable conditions.The reason is,it won’t help his or her problem rather it reduces his credibility and respect before,stop announcing your problems,for they only hear,console and sympathise without offering you what you need to be out of situation..

Ignorance:people exaggerate their problems out of ignorance.If they secure better knowledge of the situation,they will rise up and profer solutions instead of raising a pity not be ignorant in life,seek to know something about everything you are doing or going through,you will be a better person that way.

Deception:many people are deceivers.They love to deceive others for some temporal gains.That however is unfortunate because when your deception is discovered,you will be treated like a commom criminal.

Friday, February 6, 2009

Overcome Depression By Finding Your Strength

Sometimes it can be helpful simply to accept the reality of your depression. The strategies people use to self-medicate or deny a depression often cause more problems complicating the existing depression. So you might want to answer the following questions to help face the depression while realizing that you are bigger than your depression.

• “I am depressed, but one resource for helping me through the depression is __________________________” (Answer this as many times as possible).

• “I am depressed but I can reach out for help. The following people can support me through this depression:” (List as many people as possible)

• “I am depressed but one quality about myself that will help me through this depression is:” (Answer as many times as possible).

• “Even though I am depressed I will not fall back on the self-destructive habit of ______________ for coping with this depression”

• “I am depressed but there are many professionals who are trained to help people who are struggling like I am. The following professionals can guide me through this difficult time: (list as many as possible, it might be a psychotherapist, a psychiatrist, a primary care doctor, an energy healer, a naturopath etc.)”

• “The family members that will be the most useful in helping me cope with depression are:”

• “The family members that will be least helpful during my depression are: (List family members) and I might want to consider setting strong boundaries until I recover from this depression.”

• “The things I can do that will help me cope with this depression are:” (list as many activities as possible.”

After completing these sentence stems you can also write free form reflections on resources you have available to you to help cope with your depression.One of the symptoms of depression is that it keeps you focused on the bad things in your life and it often prevents you from seeing the positive things in your life. You may be depressed, but that is not all that you are. Ask yourself “What else are you?” What strengths do you have that the depression has not overshadowed? For example, you might write that “I am depressed, but I am also a mother”, or “I am a professional”. In reflecting on your strengths, you might write that “I still am a wonderful cook,” or “I have overcome many difficulties in my life and therefore am strong and courageous.”

Dealing With Depression On a Daily Basis

No one said that dealing with depression on a daily basis was easy. It is not. But, if you have this disease, then you must find a way, even if it is deep inside you, to pull through the day. Remind yourself of the positive things that you have within your life. Your family, your job, your friends can be a few. If you have been diagnosed with depression or feel that you are dealing with depression on a daily basis, you may feel that depression is consuming your life. You worry about everything. You don’t want to do anything. The things that used to make you happy, well, they just don’t seem important anymore. You need to realize that depression is a serious condition and that without the assistance of a doctor, depression just won’t go away.

But, you can learn to deal with the effects of depression within your daily life. Yes, it is hard. Yes, it would be much easier to try and forget about it all. But, if you ever want to be happy again, you’ll want to find a way out of your black hole. In order to deal with depression on a daily basis, you may have to force yourself to do things that you do not enjoy doing anymore. You may have to surround yourself with people and places that are positive. You may have to seek out a therapist to talk to about your depression.

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