Love Is A Dream - Marriage Is The Alarm Clock

When people say love is blind. I say to them that it is marriage that will restore the sight. Before marriage, opposite sex attracts but in marriage, they repel. Do not go into marriage blindly, those who have so gone are regretting. Do not be forced into it either because if you do, you will equally be forced out. Go into marriage with your two eyes wide open. This is because whatever you do blindly will have problems. Some are already into it for no one told them love is a dream.   

When you dream for instance, sometimes you may see yourself as the head of state, chairman of a big multi- national organisation, in a push car etc before someone knocks on your door and you come back to reality to discover you have been dreaming.

However you can turn your love dream into reality if you will note and do the following: 

Do not rush into love: Love is like a tender plant, it takes time to grow. Somebody may just like you but say he/ she loves. Likeness and love are not the same. Someone can like you if he sees what he wants in you. If there are benefits he thinks he can derive from you but as soon as those things are no more that is the end. But love means despite who and what you are or may turn out to be in future. He will always be there for you.

When you wake up , face life. You do not win a battle by running away from it , those who have woken up to the reality that what they dreamt of was not what they found; I say, take heart because you can still turn that marriage around, only that it will be at a price. The price of patience, endurance forbearance, forgiveness and hope. Do not give up on your marriage no matter what

She Married Herself Without A Husband

A popular Taiwanese psychiatrist had a splendid wedding for herself early this year without a husband. Chen chen, 45, who has published a number of books, said that she spent two  month  preparing for her wedding in full traditional Taiwanese style. It included sending wedding invitation to friends and relatives for her wedding reception, lighting firecrackers and giving out her wedding cake. Sounds funny, but that’s  the uncover secret of achievers!They always remember that: THE GREATEST EXPERIENCE IS TO MEET YOURSELF AND FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR SELF! Chen Chen is not the only woman to have fallen in love with, and married herself. It’s a common practice in Taiwan.

In November last year, Taipei office worker held her own wedding after thinking that it was time to get married although she had not found “Mr Right.” The emphasis here is not on the “marriage ceremony” of these women, but on their mindset of BELEIVING IN THEMSELVES.

No matter what is happening to or around you, always remember that you are the expressed image of God and that you are not inferior to anybody. Don’t allow circumstances or daily events  to re-define who you are.

On your next birthday, buy yourself a card addressed: “FROM ME TO ME” treat yourself to a great dinner, go shopping and buy a good birthday gift for yourself, then sing a happy birthday song to yourself. 

The reason is simple: You Must Be Your Number One fan In This Wicked World! Agape Love (Unconditional Love) Is Not For You To Love The World Alone! It Must Start With You Loving Yourself Just As You Are (Without Condition).

The greatest experience is to meet yourself and fall in love with yourself daily, over and over again. Will you plan your solo-wedding soon? Invite me! Start today.

When You Lose What You Love

Last week, a friend mine was killed by arm robbers. He has three children. The news of his death was a surprise to me because he happened to be the nicest person I have ever met. I cried for two days asking God why he had to die like that. His death prompted me to write this article.
To me when you lose what you love, you go through 5 stages:

• Denial. No it can’t be happening .
• Anger. God why are you permitting this?
• Bargaining. Please make it go away
• Depression,Silence and Withdrawal
• Acceptance.

Wether it is the loss of a child, a marriage, a job, your health etc. when you turn to God, He will give you the grace to embrace it, grieve it, express it, release it and go on to become stronger.Sometimes we seek quick relief by releasing it before we have gone through these stages. That is because we fear the process.

We have been taught that any show of emotion is a show of weakness, so we stuff it. But we only stuff it into our emotional garbage can, then spend all our time and energy sitting on the lid, trying to keep the contents from spilling out.

You must be willing to forgive, but until you come to grips with the enmity of your loss, including any injustice of what was done to you, you are not ready to forgive.When you rush to forgive, you forgive only in part and you are release only in part.

Are you running from pain today? Are you trading it in prematurely for some other feeling? Draw near unto God and your grief will turn to joy and no one will take it away.

Tips On How To Be Happy In Life

Life treats or deals with different persons in diverse ways. Some are rich and some poor; some are born with silver spoon in their mouths and others have humble start. Many make way while the sun shines, while others earn their bread with the sweat of their brow. Some make wealth by foul ways and others have limited stores, for honest earnings are always small. While some are rolling in wealth, many can not afford two square meals a day. The favored and the foul pass their days in prosperity but the hard workers and the handicapped live in adversity.

Inspite of the problems we face in life we can still be happy. some of us may believe that being unhappy in life is something that is destined for them. However, we can be truly happy if we believe we can.Here are some things that you may be ignoring but can make you happy:

- Know what you want in life and what you love doing. Your interests and passion in life are among the things that can give you happiness and fulfillment and thus, for as long as you give time to do what you want and enjoy your passion, you can be happy in life.

-Take care of your health. It is often hard to be happy if your physical self is not well. Loose extra weight if you are overweight or obese, have a healthy diet, cut down on bad eating habits and do exercise. Of course, poor nutrition can be a factor to your bad mood. Keep in mind that the healthier you are, the easier you can learn how to be happy in life.

- Go with positive people. They most likely are happy ones. Get rid of negatives in life and avoid negative people as much as you can. Being negative can influence you and may lead you to being unhappy. If you can't get away with dealing with negative people especially if it happens in the workplace, then you can choose how to react to them and stay away from being angry or irritated.

-Conclusively,Love yourself and draw near unto God,if you cannot love yourself it is difficult to love others.

How To Help Your Child Overcome Depression

Depression is an elusive illness that affects the young today. There has been cases of children who thought killing themselves is the best solution to get out of depression.. Statistics have shown that four out of every 100 teenagers experience some sort of serious depression each year. Parents whose children are experiencing depression have a role to play in helping their children to get out of this mental illness. To help you your child overcome depression, make him or her feel loved and accepted.

One of the difficult things children must deal with are the lies that come into their minds masquerading as truth:I’m not loved,’I’m not accepted.’ I’m not appreciated’ I’m not attractive’, I’m not good enough, I’m too fat, “too thin’ ‘too tall”. “too short”, “too dumb,” ‘too smart”, “too everything” These lies escalate as children move into their teenage years and often are carried into adulthood..

You need to respond with love, kindness and support if your child is experiencing depression. The opposite of being loved and accepted is being rejected-something we’ve all experienced at one time or the other in our lives.Who among us has never felt embarrassment, humiliation, failure, fault, or someone disapproival over something we’ve done? Wether it be by a family member, a friend, or a complete stranger, rejection happens to all of us.

Some people can let such incident roll-off their backs, because they know, deep within,  that they are accepted.others,  however, may bear deep emotional wounds from incident after incident of rejection, so any perceived lack of acceptance can transform their personalities into something ugly.

That’s why rejection is at the root of so much of the evil we read about in the news papers every day. A rejected worker goes back to his former place of employment and shoots his boss and co-workers. A rejected husband beats or kills his wife.  A mother whio has been rejected by others abuses her child.  Rejection brings out the worst in people, love and acceptance bring out the best.